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Re: Never pay for online dating (2010)

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Post by antiterra » Tue, Oct 11, 2022, 3:43 PM UTC

EmilyHughes wrote: post #62

I don't get it. Why does no government anywhere run a non-profit dating site from tax-payer money when this is becoming the most popular way people are meeting? All the options people have are using toxic apps which entire business model is to undermine the self-esteem of young men and scamming them out of their money. And then people wonder where the mental health problems and mass shootings come from. I really don'…

I'm all for a lot of state-sponsored things, but a government run dating site sounds like one of the most dystopian ideas I can imagine.

Blaming online dating sites for mental health problems and mass shooting is a new one. I don't discount the feeling of despair that can occur on dating sites for men. However, the experience of a being woman on a dating app is absolutely harrowing, even if you have incredibly low standards and/or are incredibly desirable.

Re: Never pay for online dating (2010)

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Post by langitbiru » Tue, Oct 11, 2022, 3:44 PM UTC

EmilyHughes wrote: post #62

I don't get it. Why does no government anywhere run a non-profit dating site from tax-payer money when this is becoming the most popular way people are meeting? All the options people have are using toxic apps which entire business model is to undermine the self-esteem of young men and scamming them out of their money. And then people wonder where the mental health problems and mass shootings come from. I really don'…

Singapore gov does that (to some extent):

https://www.msf.gov.sg/policies/Marriages/Pages/Finding-a-Pa...

Re: Never pay for online dating (2010)

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Post by Carrok » Tue, Oct 11, 2022, 3:44 PM UTC

Cloudef wrote: post #101

romankolpak wrote: post #82

Related personal anecdote: I am experimenting with Tinder subscription at the moment, and it feels incredibly exploitative. When you make a profile, matches are frequent and you can tell that you show up for people. However it gradually falls down with time, and the only predictable and obvious way to get back up is to pay for Boosts and/or Priority Likes. Right now my 6-month old profile gets ZERO likes outside of t…

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> meet people in real life like you are meant to be

Keep this gatekeeping nonsense to yourself. I met my wife of many years on a dating app. We probably never would have met by chance.

Re: Never pay for online dating (2010)

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Post by INTPenis » Tue, Oct 11, 2022, 3:44 PM UTC

EmilyHughes wrote: post #62

I don't get it. Why does no government anywhere run a non-profit dating site from tax-payer money when this is becoming the most popular way people are meeting? All the options people have are using toxic apps which entire business model is to undermine the self-esteem of young men and scamming them out of their money. And then people wonder where the mental health problems and mass shootings come from. I really don'…

Well how about we start a non-profit dating app? I was just wondering how much it could cost to run the backend with todays cloud services. With what Tinder is charging for boosts and subscriptions I feel like they're raking it in. But I've never developed and deployed a fully cloud based app, just used a bunch of their services off and on.

Re: Never pay for online dating (2010)

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Post by mikepurvis » Tue, Oct 11, 2022, 3:44 PM UTC

romankolpak wrote: post #82

Related personal anecdote: I am experimenting with Tinder subscription at the moment, and it feels incredibly exploitative. When you make a profile, matches are frequent and you can tell that you show up for people. However it gradually falls down with time, and the only predictable and obvious way to get back up is to pay for Boosts and/or Priority Likes. Right now my 6-month old profile gets ZERO likes outside of t…

Agreed. It also seems extremely gross that you're initially pushed to buy Tinder Gold, but then only afterward realise there are still features locked behind Tinder Platinum, and even after that you'll probably spend still more buying packs of boosts and super-likes.

I know they're far from the only game in town, but this really feels like the behaviour of a monopoly entity that knows it can do basically whatever.

Re: Never pay for online dating (2010)

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Post by Cloudef » Tue, Oct 11, 2022, 3:45 PM UTC

Carrok wrote: post #113

Cloudef wrote: post #101

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> meet people in real life like you are meant to be Keep this gatekeeping nonsense to yourself. I met my wife of many years on a dating app. We probably never would have met by chance.

Good for you. Doesnt change the fact they are shady and made to mainly exploit people's weakness for money.

Re: Never pay for online dating (2010)

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Post by googlryas » Tue, Oct 11, 2022, 3:46 PM UTC

Yoofie wrote: post #97

EmilyHughes wrote: post #62

I don't get it. Why does no government anywhere run a non-profit dating site from tax-payer money when this is becoming the most popular way people are meeting? All the options people have are using toxic apps which entire business model is to undermine the self-esteem of young men and scamming them out of their money. And then people wonder where the mental health problems and mass shootings come from. I really don'…

> Why does no government anywhere run a non-profit dating site from tax-payer money Because its outside the scope & role of the government? > I really don't understand how this stuff is still not regulated anywhere This is a common theme I see in alot of discussions about everything. Do not confuse regulation with enforcement. Any regulation that is not enforced is useless, or it is used selectively (a.k.a "corruptio…

> Because its outside the scope & role of the government

Is it? Governments care very much about what their demographics will be in the future. Governments get involved in trying to modify birth rate. Hooking people up seems like an interesting idea, especially if the government thinks they're going to deal with massively bad demographic shift in the midterm future.

Re: Never pay for online dating (2010)

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Post by mantas » Tue, Oct 11, 2022, 3:46 PM UTC

Yoofie wrote: post #97

EmilyHughes wrote: post #62

I don't get it. Why does no government anywhere run a non-profit dating site from tax-payer money when this is becoming the most popular way people are meeting? All the options people have are using toxic apps which entire business model is to undermine the self-esteem of young men and scamming them out of their money. And then people wonder where the mental health problems and mass shootings come from. I really don'…

> Why does no government anywhere run a non-profit dating site from tax-payer money Because its outside the scope & role of the government? > I really don't understand how this stuff is still not regulated anywhere This is a common theme I see in alot of discussions about everything. Do not confuse regulation with enforcement. Any regulation that is not enforced is useless, or it is used selectively (a.k.a "corruptio…

Different governments have widely different scopes & roles. It's up to society to decide what government shall do.

Re: Never pay for online dating (2010)

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Post by danielvf » Tue, Oct 11, 2022, 3:47 PM UTC

EmilyHughes wrote: post #62

I don't get it. Why does no government anywhere run a non-profit dating site from tax-payer money when this is becoming the most popular way people are meeting? All the options people have are using toxic apps which entire business model is to undermine the self-esteem of young men and scamming them out of their money. And then people wonder where the mental health problems and mass shootings come from. I really don'…

The government of Singapore has been active in this area since the 80's. Not only having run a dating site, but also subsidizing singles cruises, hosting mixer events, and grants to college programs to get people together.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_Development_Network

Re: Never pay for online dating (2010)

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Post by afpx » Tue, Oct 11, 2022, 3:47 PM UTC

Arkhaine_kupo wrote: post #74

houstonn wrote: post #28

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More Orwellian still, they edited articles that contained data inconvenient to the politically correct narrative and elite ideology. Edit: Here's an example. “I’m bisexual.” REALITY: 80% of self-identified bisexuals are only interested in one gender. People who describe themselves as bisexual overwhelmingly message either one sex or the other, not both as you might expect. https://web.archive.org/web/20170307114207/h…

Whats inconvinient to the pollitically correct narrative is people with 0 scientific literacy making bold claims about society based on surveys on extremely sampled social studies. Doing a study on how "dateable" black women are based on a specific dating app in 2010 is like making claims on everyones eating habits based on a survey on a Burger king drive through. It will probably not be a very good survey. They also…

Would it be ok if they warned that it's just for entertainment?

I enjoy reading these types of articles, and in my next project, I was planning to do something similar.