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Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become

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Re: Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become

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Post by tamrix »

1659447091 wrote: post #106
mikkergp wrote: post #54

Earlier quoted context omitted.

If the only reason a person is having a conversation with me is so they can be a better conversationalist tomorrow, than they can fuck off. I worked out today, I ate healthy today, I worked hard and did chores for my family, and praticed my art forms and I did it all for today. Who knows what tomorrow will bring. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with planning for tomorrow, but there is a problem with seeing "eve…

I believe it's more along the lines of "I'm having a conversation with you today because I value and care about you and our friendship etc; I want to be the kind of person that shows up for others and leaves people I interact with in a better place/mood/etc." Instead of being the person not aware of their moods and carrying resentment over the smallest slights so they end up bitching about it to everyone. If one neve…

Some people are so driven towards being productive that they think their time is worth more than others.

Why should I waste my day taking to you when I could be working and being more productive?

Eventually all your relationships, friends family etc are tied down to how much money you will be making with that time as it could be better spent working, making money .

So sure every choice is a vote for an improved you. No one would question such an obvious statement. But the way this is framed, is that every decision should be a productive one, which will net you more income.

So stop wasting your time and be more productive or your self worth is delimiting. Aka productivity porn.

Re: Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become

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Post by pengaru »

cortesoft wrote: post #26

Oh man this is such a perfect example of productivity porn. Every action you take isn’t a vote for the type of person you wish to become, it is a vote taken by the person you are. I hate this mindset of “I am constantly working towards becoming someone else”. When do we spend time as the person we are? When do we enjoy the fruits of our labor? I feel like some people who take this mindset see their lives as being two…

Whether you like it or not, you always have a trajectory, and time serves as a relentlessly constant velocity progressing along that vector.

Re: Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become

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Post by colechristensen »

Ridiculous.

If every action you take is for something else as a means to an end, you are doing nothing because of the value of the doing the thing itself. That sounds like a pretty shitty life regardless of what you end up "becoming".

Re: Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become

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Post by datavirtue »

cortesoft wrote: post #26

Oh man this is such a perfect example of productivity porn. Every action you take isn’t a vote for the type of person you wish to become, it is a vote taken by the person you are. I hate this mindset of “I am constantly working towards becoming someone else”. When do we spend time as the person we are? When do we enjoy the fruits of our labor? I feel like some people who take this mindset see their lives as being two…

Yeah, it's called learning how to live.

Re: Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become

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Post by jdgoesmarching »

pengaru wrote: post #112
cortesoft wrote: post #26

Oh man this is such a perfect example of productivity porn. Every action you take isn’t a vote for the type of person you wish to become, it is a vote taken by the person you are. I hate this mindset of “I am constantly working towards becoming someone else”. When do we spend time as the person we are? When do we enjoy the fruits of our labor? I feel like some people who take this mindset see their lives as being two…

Whether you like it or not, you always have a trajectory, and time serves as a relentlessly constant velocity progressing along that vector.

This is just “everything happens for a reason” translated into hustlespeak. You are free to fret over every second not spent leveling up an attribute, but it’s weird to project this LinkedIn ideology as some sort of universal maxim.

Re: Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become

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Post by pengaru »

jdgoesmarching wrote: post #115
pengaru wrote: post #112

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Whether you like it or not, you always have a trajectory, and time serves as a relentlessly constant velocity progressing along that vector.

This is just “everything happens for a reason” translated into hustlespeak. You are free to fret over every second not spent leveling up an attribute, but it’s weird to project this LinkedIn ideology as some sort of universal maxim.

> This is just “everything happens for a reason” translated into hustlespeak.

What? That makes absolutely no sense.

It's a frank acknowledgement of the fact that nothing stays the same, including you. The decisions you make today affect your trajectory and where you'll be tomorrow, next week, next year, next decade, until death.

None of this assigns meaning, reason, or purpose to any of it.

Re: Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become

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Post by kodah »

mattgreenrocks wrote: post #99
kodah wrote: post #24

I feel like the author is moralizing something in order to make it more gratifying . > firm believer that structure dictates behavior So every action you take is a vote and structure dictates your behavior. This sounds oddly familiar.

This is insightful. Would the author do these things absent the post-hoc moralizing? Maybe we are seeing what it looks like when we concoct narratives to order our life, and it hits a bit too close to home. After all, how coincidental is it that the thing that brings ultimate fulfillment (career) is also the thing that we’ve been told all our life to put so much into.

I'm not a psychologist or a sociologist, but I tend to agree with you. I might expand this farther than work though. You can find this any human activity that has very passionate people: religion, politics, self-help, tech (apparently). Ultimately, humans are susceptible to posturing ourselves compared to our peers. To me, the byproduct is morality of which a major component is judgement.

Re: Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become

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Post by rexpop »

kodah wrote: post #24

I feel like the author is moralizing something in order to make it more gratifying . > firm believer that structure dictates behavior So every action you take is a vote and structure dictates your behavior. This sounds oddly familiar.

> This sounds oddly familiar.

Can you spell out your associations plainly for those of us who haven't made the conceptual leap?

Re: Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become

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Post by remram »

swatcoder wrote: post #40

Why is this getting upvoted? Even if you find the headline thought provoking, the article puts no effort into sharing it or exploring it. It’s just a list of self-enrichment things the OP is proud of having done lately. This is effectively just resume spam.

The headline is wrong too. Actions you take might be a vote for who you WILL become, but not who you WISH to become. In other words, one can fail to become who they wanted to.

Re: Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become

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Post by MichaelZuo »

karaterobot wrote: post #96
stonemetal12 wrote: post #89

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It is a false dichotomy. Every action you take today is a vote by the you who exists right now. Every action you take today does build the history of the person you are tomorrow. It is not one or the other, but both.

Describing any action as a vote about your future identity is a way of thinking about the world. It makes sense within the particular framework this article is presenting, but it is not a universally held belief, and it's not self-evidently true. It's a metaphor. Here's an example: if you choose not a rob a bank 10,000 times, that's 10,000 votes for not being a bank robber. Then if you choose to rob a bank just one t…

Choosing not to rob a bank 10 000 times still means you are a potential bank robber, like everyone else on this planet. At the 10 001 choice where it actually happens, this simply turns the potential to actual.
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