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The Secret to a Happy Marriage: Do the Dishes, Put Out, Don’t Talk So Much

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Re: The Secret to a Happy Marriage: Do the Dishes, Put Out, Don’t Talk So Much

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hartror wrote: post #52
_h4xr wrote: post #26

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I recommend The Red Queen if you want to start learning about this. The short answer: men largely choose mates based on looks; women choose based more on social status. Signalling low social status reduces male attractiveness; signalling high social status raises it. n = 1, but this has worked for me. Deliberately act like you can take it or leave it, and you're unlikely to be left. (And note that women initiate the…

I love pop psychology books that tell me it is fine to be lazy and uncaring. /sarcasm We aren't talking about dating here, we are talking about long term relationships. The whole Red Queen thing breaks down when we add artificial human constructs such as marriage and monogamy. We are not a Silver Back leading a band of gorillas, we are far more complex than that. Sure, signalling plays a roll in initial conditions, i…

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Re: The Secret to a Happy Marriage: Do the Dishes, Put Out, Don’t Talk So Much

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Post by smallblacksun »

colinplamondon wrote: post #28
OasisG wrote: post #5

Then party like it's 1950. ETA: With the growing number of men who refuse to pick up every check, plan every date/event, act as sole provider for the family, purchase gifts regularly for their other half, etc. for fear of marrying a woman who is too focused on money... I'm really beginning to wonder what women are getting out of this marriage deal anymore.

50% after the divorce?

Plus alimony for the rest of their life?

Re: The Secret to a Happy Marriage: Do the Dishes, Put Out, Don’t Talk So Much

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Post by neworbit »

tertius wrote: post #62
sin7 wrote: post #14

Marriage satisfaction = love making - fighting

You are in error sir. Marriage Satisfaction = Fighting (or Total Conflict) - Unresolved Conflict Conflict among other things brings you closer together. A couple who "fight" well will stay together.

citation needed

Re: The Secret to a Happy Marriage: Do the Dishes, Put Out, Don’t Talk So Much

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Post by nhangen »

bartonfink wrote: post #17
abalashov wrote: post #13

This is the first popular publication article I've seen that has given the very important cognitive overload aspect of nagging--and especially multi-pronged nagging litany, which seems to be the most common kind--the treatment it deserves: But when it comes to nagging reminders about what your spouse still has to do after a long day working for the man—take out the recycling, walk the dog, write a thank-you letter, d…

Now I just need to figure out a good way to pass that hint along to my wife without her inferring that I hate her and don't ever want to speak to her about anything.

A Facebook like works well for me :)

Re: The Secret to a Happy Marriage: Do the Dishes, Put Out, Don’t Talk So Much

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Post by djacobs »

bartonfink wrote: post #17
abalashov wrote: post #13

This is the first popular publication article I've seen that has given the very important cognitive overload aspect of nagging--and especially multi-pronged nagging litany, which seems to be the most common kind--the treatment it deserves: But when it comes to nagging reminders about what your spouse still has to do after a long day working for the man—take out the recycling, walk the dog, write a thank-you letter, d…

Now I just need to figure out a good way to pass that hint along to my wife without her inferring that I hate her and don't ever want to speak to her about anything.

Convention says: get your mutual friends to share it on Facebook. My suggestion? A dream within a dream within a dream.

Re: The Secret to a Happy Marriage: Do the Dishes, Put Out, Don’t Talk So Much

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Post by nhangen »

OasisG wrote: post #5

Then party like it's 1950. ETA: With the growing number of men who refuse to pick up every check, plan every date/event, act as sole provider for the family, purchase gifts regularly for their other half, etc. for fear of marrying a woman who is too focused on money... I'm really beginning to wonder what women are getting out of this marriage deal anymore.

I don't know a single man that wouldn't do all of that given the opportunity.

Re: The Secret to a Happy Marriage: Do the Dishes, Put Out, Don’t Talk So Much

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Post by mkramlich »

civilian wrote: post #105
colanderman wrote: post #99

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You're probably right. I think "hunny" is derived "honey" -> "hun" -> "hunny" though.

Hunny is how 'honey' is spelled in Winnie the Pooh.

that's because bears can't spell

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Post by pyre »

nhangen wrote: post #117
pyre wrote: post #94

Earlier quoted context omitted.

To oppress races of people that we don't like so much?

so women are a race now?

If smallblacksun wanted to refer only to stereotypes about gender roles he/she should have said 'those stereotypes exist for a reason.' Instead he/she said 'stereotypes exist for a reason,' which is a much broader statement.
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