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It's Never Too Late to Be Successful and Happy

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Re: It's Never Too Late to Be Successful and Happy

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Post by wishwish »

wishwish wrote: post #110
lanrh1836 wrote: post #5

This makes the wrong assumption that happiness comes with success. Success doesn’t bring happiness. If anything, being happy in the first place is what gives you a better chance at achieving success.

those who sell happiness are in the business of directing your life, so just be yourself.

I don't know why HN hide my comments, anyway here they are again:

Perhaps you deny people the right to wish things they will never have?

The true thing to know is that most of your dreams will never come true and you should'nt be sad about it.

Just to please the hive mind of HN:

Don’t aim to be successful — aim to be hardworking

https://medium.com/@s.sekulins/the-first-step-to-surpassing-....

https://medium.com/the-ascent/popular-delusion-3-common-and-....

https://medium.com/the-ascent/how-to-become-successful-in-3-....

Re: It's Never Too Late to Be Successful and Happy

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Post by solveit »

kirse wrote: post #54
sidcool wrote: post #34

Posts like these give me some hope. I am 37 and lost. The work and career which once brought pleasure now seems drudgery. The daily morning battle is: "Is it worth it?". There is no answer to the question.

Are you really lost if you can recognize you're lost? I always figure the point of spiritual malaise and existential wandering is to prune away the false hopes and beliefs that keep us mildly entertained and encourage us to seek out eternal hopes that provide daily rejuvenation. Ecclesiastes is always a comforting read whenever I feel that way: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ecclesiastes+1&...

You are if you can't figure out where to go.

Re: It's Never Too Late to Be Successful and Happy

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Post by llamataboot »

sidcool wrote: post #79
llamataboot wrote: post #55

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Might I suggest, with sincerity and humbleness, that the question is a very good start and maybe it's not uncertainty holding you back but fear? Where do you go when you keep asking "I'm dying, not much time left, is it worth it?" I mean, is it?

That's the one! It's next to impossible to go beyond that question. Where do you go from there? And you are spot on with the 'fear' part.

You listen for the small voice inside of you that knows what it wants, you protect it from all the other voices inside of you that will shout at it for being unrealistic, or selfish, or naive, etc. And you follow as best you can...

Re: It's Never Too Late to Be Successful and Happy

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Post by NetOpWibby »

mikekchar wrote: post #74
lanrh1836 wrote: post #5

This makes the wrong assumption that happiness comes with success. Success doesn’t bring happiness. If anything, being happy in the first place is what gives you a better chance at achieving success.

Success is surprisingly fun. However, allow me to make a distinction. For a lot of people instead of wishing to do something, they wish to have done something. So for example, they may say that they wish to make a lot of money, but actually they want to have made a lot of money. The idea in their head is lounging on the beach with cute waiting staff at their beck and call. However the thing they end up doing is worki…

I’m sharing this comment with my friends and family, that was thought-provoking and insightful.

Re: It's Never Too Late to Be Successful and Happy

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Post by cableshaft »

kirse wrote: post #54
sidcool wrote: post #34

Posts like these give me some hope. I am 37 and lost. The work and career which once brought pleasure now seems drudgery. The daily morning battle is: "Is it worth it?". There is no answer to the question.

Are you really lost if you can recognize you're lost? I always figure the point of spiritual malaise and existential wandering is to prune away the false hopes and beliefs that keep us mildly entertained and encourage us to seek out eternal hopes that provide daily rejuvenation. Ecclesiastes is always a comforting read whenever I feel that way: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ecclesiastes+1&...

I'd never given that book of the Bible a serious read before. Turns out I should have earlier. Very interesting. Thanks!

Re: It's Never Too Late to Be Successful and Happy

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Post by liberte82 »

mikekchar wrote: post #74
lanrh1836 wrote: post #5

This makes the wrong assumption that happiness comes with success. Success doesn’t bring happiness. If anything, being happy in the first place is what gives you a better chance at achieving success.

Success is surprisingly fun. However, allow me to make a distinction. For a lot of people instead of wishing to do something, they wish to have done something. So for example, they may say that they wish to make a lot of money, but actually they want to have made a lot of money. The idea in their head is lounging on the beach with cute waiting staff at their beck and call. However the thing they end up doing is worki…

This is a good way of explaining the old expression, "What matters is the journey, not the destination"

Re: It's Never Too Late to Be Successful and Happy

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Post by croh »

mikekchar wrote: post #74
lanrh1836 wrote: post #5

This makes the wrong assumption that happiness comes with success. Success doesn’t bring happiness. If anything, being happy in the first place is what gives you a better chance at achieving success.

Success is surprisingly fun. However, allow me to make a distinction. For a lot of people instead of wishing to do something, they wish to have done something. So for example, they may say that they wish to make a lot of money, but actually they want to have made a lot of money. The idea in their head is lounging on the beach with cute waiting staff at their beck and call. However the thing they end up doing is worki…

Awesome comment

Re: It's Never Too Late to Be Successful and Happy

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Post by croh »

liberte82 wrote: post #117
mikekchar wrote: post #74

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Success is surprisingly fun. However, allow me to make a distinction. For a lot of people instead of wishing to do something, they wish to have done something. So for example, they may say that they wish to make a lot of money, but actually they want to have made a lot of money. The idea in their head is lounging on the beach with cute waiting staff at their beck and call. However the thing they end up doing is worki…

This is a good way of explaining the old expression, "What matters is the journey, not the destination"

And if you don't like travelling, don't embark on journey. Problem comes when you want to reach destination and hate travelling.
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