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"You can’t just shame tens of thousands of men into accepting a substandard life." I would challenge the "substandard life" assertion, as it's a framing issue. The biological need for sex is indeed great, I won't argue that point - but I don't believe that lacking sex necessarily makes a life substandard. In all fairness, it is extremely difficult to re-frame something so primal, but I think a stronger focus on accep…
There are many variations of standards of life. Some are objectively better than others. Compare a wealthy person to someone whose standard of life was so bad they froze to death on the streets in winter, due to homelessness. There are many factors that affect standards of life, including e.g. having a shelter or not, etc. Other factors make less of a difference to the standard, e.g. access to education. This is all…
There are no a-shelter, a-money, etc., individuals who simply do not need those things. There are people without those things, yes - and I agree that their existence is objectively worse off for it.
Sex, on the other hand, can be entirely absent from a person's life and not necessarily impact it.
So I don't think I accept your assertion that sex is objectively a necessity for a high standard of life. It currently behaves as one, because we generally accept that it's desired so deeply by so many that it qualifies as a need - and for the most part, that might well be true. But there is still the case to be made that "having sex or not" is only as much of an impact on one's standard of living as one's worldview dictates. This is not true of other "hard" needs, as pointed out before. Ie: My philosophy on sex can yield an asexual, long, healthy, and happy life, but my philosophy on shelter cannot lead to a homeless long, health, and happy life. (Happy is debatable, sure.)