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Agreed. I'm also in nyc doing the same thing you are. Always interested in meeting other people in nyc doing the same. Let me know if you ever want to meet up.
wtf was this exchange?
Interesting that this came up. Last weekend, I was at a coffee shop / bar type place with a friend and we got talking about body language. We started people watching and noticed two separate people in the place: both males, both alone. The first man, I decided, was waiting for someone and was very clearly uncomfortable with the idea that he was sitting alone in a public place. His right leg was shaking rapidly (my ri…
So the second guy was eating a meal, and the first guy was not, probably doing nothing until his guest arrived. There is your difference.
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So the second guy was eating a meal, and the first guy was not, probably doing nothing until his guest arrived. There is your difference.
There are many times where you're left doing nothing, waiting for something to happen or somebody to arrive. Enjoy the moment. Relax. Observe your surroundings. It's sad seeing people who cannot deal with lack of external stimulus, and the "difference" from the other patron in this situation shouldn't matter.
This is what I want to do (and will try to). It's not that I cannot deal with a lack of external stimulus though, it's just that I'm too anxious and in my own head. But now that I've reached 30 I've started caring a lot less about stuff like this and think I might be able to (for example) enjoy a meal in a restaurant on my own, or sit and have a glass of wine somewhere, if I wanted to.
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Isn't the idea to go out alone and make new friends? You shouldn't have to go out alone tons. Just enough to meet new people.
It may be, but it should not. You can go alone for the purpose of making friends with yourself. I this is why, I think, lots of people prefer not to be alone: they are afraid of reflection. Or, god forbid, being alone in silence, without some loud music to deafen the voices you might hear. I see being alone as a kind of meditation.
Interesting that this came up. Last weekend, I was at a coffee shop / bar type place with a friend and we got talking about body language. We started people watching and noticed two separate people in the place: both males, both alone. The first man, I decided, was waiting for someone and was very clearly uncomfortable with the idea that he was sitting alone in a public place. His right leg was shaking rapidly (my ri…
I'm often that second guy, and it's one of my favourite past-times. My recipe: 1. Go out, 2. alone, 3. with a book, 4. and drink a glass of wine. It never fails me. Often I don't even read the book - it's just a handy crutch. If you do tire of gazing slowly at the surroundings, reach for the book rather than your phone. Never pull out your phone. It's amazing how many little conversations I have with passers-by, the…
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"dad's mother-in-law" ... odd way to say "my grandmother" ?
English is possibly the least expressive language in history regarding relationship terminology. It is very common for non-english speakers to prefer idioms that more carefully map what they are thinking of instead of the highly limited and simplistic possibilities of english.
You're saying that it's idiomatic in some languages to say something that translates to "dad's mother-in-law" to refer to one's maternal grandmother?
What is the semantic difference between saying that and simply saying "maternal grandmother" (or just "grandmother")? Does it indicate something along the lines of "my grandmother" while also communicating distance from one's mother, or that one's mother has died?
Do you know of any other interesting relationship semantics that are frequently expressed in other languages, but awkward to say in English?
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Agreed. I'm also in nyc doing the same thing you are. Always interested in meeting other people in nyc doing the same. Let me know if you ever want to meet up.
wtf was this exchange?
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wtf was this exchange?
Obviously you are not familiar with the PUA ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pickup_artist ) community. Not that I am, but I've seen enough of it to not find this exchange out of the ordinary in the least.
Halfway into my fourth year in college, I developed a major funk that led to me failing several classes. My dad took me out to lunch one day for a "what are you doing with your life?" talk. He had been very strict about schoolwork and grades when I was younger (and throughout much of my college career), so I was expecting to be badgered and threatened with his vision of my bleak future if I didn't turn things around.…
I've found myself in a similar situation, I think. I'd like to do some travelling but I find myself getting hung up on money and overall I just don't know what I would spend my time doing. What did you do once you arrived in a town or city? I really would love to have an idea of what one would do in a situation like that.