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Don't Ban “Bossy”

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Re: Don't Ban “Bossy”

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Post by loomio »

orky56 wrote: post #11

It's funny but "bully" is more associated with males and "bossy" with females. Both have negative connotations of forcing someone to do something against their own will. It seems that the reason behind not banning "bossy" is that females require this opportunity for leadership development. It seems sexist that females should be allowed to impose their will on others but males shouldn't in similar situations. I would…

Oh yes, this must be why leadership positions in business, government, and all areas of life are dominated by women. Oh wait...

Re: Don't Ban “Bossy”

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Post by dferlemann »

dfc wrote: post #67
dferlemann wrote: post #34

Earlier quoted context omitted.

My general impression about being a boss is that "one should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself" does not apply for such situation. Like business should focus on customers, leadership style should focus on employees. Some boss set example according to their value and standard, employees might just not appreciate that. For example, a military style boss might value be at work on time, get your time…

> My general impression about being a boss is that "one should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself" does not apply for such situation. LOL. How does this not apply: "As a boss I should treat my employees the way I would like my boss to treat me." Any reasonable person understands that the professional context means that the relationship between boss/employee is not the same as friend/friend, strang…

> LOL. How does this not apply: "As a boss I should treat my employees the way I would like my boss to treat me." Any reasonable person understands that the professional context means that the relationship between boss/employee is not the same as friend/friend, stranger-on-subway/stranger-on-subway.

Because not everyone is like you. You are assuming everyone can separate personal life with professional life. That would be probably ideal, but doesn't happen often base on my observation. I find it's especially rare among highly talented/creative employees. Army ants, yes, it would be fair.

> That is a terrible, contrived example based on some strange concept/stereotype/cliche of military leadership. What branch of the service were you in? Did your well respected NCOs run around acting like the guy from Office Space and pester people about their TPS reports?

Ain't we all generalizing here? And yes, I have a boss like that, and female, too. What's your point?

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