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Re: What Happens When One of Your Coworkers Dies

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Post by efuquen »

jboggan wrote: post #8

This has happened in my experience before, and it is one of the strongest reasons for good source control that is infrequently considered. It was a tragedy when a very wonderful and dear researcher in our group died suddenly, especially to his three children and wife that he left behind. It was also a great loss as well that we could never recover some key bits of source code from his computer, and that a very promis…

Unfortunately relevant: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2525584/Copywriter-d...

Obviously not a common thing, but it is a scary thought to think it's quite possible to work yourself to death in an office based environment. I'm sure many of us (including myself) can think of similar times in our lives when we worked this hard, heavily intoxicated with the energy poison of your choice, working multiple all nighters in a row. Even when you're young you're not invincible.

Re: What Happens When One of Your Coworkers Dies

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Post by PavlovsCat »

heed wrote: post #92
jigneshg wrote: post #90

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Hi Steven, Sorry to hear your horrible experience loosing good friend and after reading your reply, i feel that the person like him did not deserve such death :( Sometime it is very difficult for human to understand GOD and his punishment !

> Sometime it is very difficult for human to understand GOD and his punishment ! What a rude, and offensive thing to say.

"God and his punishments" == "bad things that happen, life being unfair" etc.?

I read this as someone trying to give their condolences the best way they know how, according to their beliefs, in a language that is not their native tongue.

Re: What Happens When One of Your Coworkers Dies

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Post by PavlovsCat »

scrrr wrote: post #98

Two friends died when I was a student. A guy from the company I was working at died on the Air France flight from Brazil. They were all very young. It's entirely possible this happens to other people I know, or to me. FWIW, I think it's good and healthy to think about death, perhaps even to think about it often. There used to be a time when people put skulls on their desks to be reminded.

"By meditating on death, we can experience the shock of being alive." -- Stephen Batchelor

Re: What Happens When One of Your Coworkers Dies

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Post by YoukaiCountry »

PavlovsCat wrote: post #102
heed wrote: post #92

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> Sometime it is very difficult for human to understand GOD and his punishment ! What a rude, and offensive thing to say.

"God and his punishments" == "bad things that happen, life being unfair" etc.? I read this as someone trying to give their condolences the best way they know how, according to their beliefs, in a language that is not their native tongue.

That's what I see, too. I don't think this person deserves the anger. They were trying to be nice.

Re: What Happens When One of Your Coworkers Dies

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Post by dmckeon »

warmwaffles wrote: post #87
judk wrote: post #68

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I wonder if we'd have fewer suicides if we publicly acknowledged the contributions of people before they died.

We would have to know they are suicidal ahead of time. By that point if I knew they were suicidal, I would definitely talk to that person a lot more and invite them to events with my friends.

Or, we could talk to people, invite them to events, and acknowledge their contributions. Just a thought.

Re: What Happens When One of Your Coworkers Dies

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Post by aaron695 »

I'm assuming this story is a Facebook generation thing.

Not sure if it's a disassociation of the difference between/loss of real friendships and acquaintances or perhaps the constant need to get attention which people are starting to use the death of others to get (amongst other things)

I can't tell if this story is true or not, it's certainly well written and of literary value.

But it is not normal to light candles, create movies and put people who have passed away's photos up in the workplace.

Those true friends in the workplace will go to the funeral, this sort of darkness in getting off on people who we barley knew who have died, kinda scares me the most in this story.

Re: What Happens When One of Your Coworkers Dies

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Post by sillysaurus2 »

nulagrithom wrote: post #81
teraflop wrote: post #63

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FYI, bluekitten, you've been hellbanned since December 13.

Interesting. bluekitten seems to have been hellbanned after posting only two comments. Is that all it takes? Edit: And in the time it took me to post this, the comment appears!

This is both mistaken and a distraction from a very important topic.

EDIT: It's mistaken that she was banned for her two comments. It's unreasonable to read her comments and conclude she was hellbanned for asking a question about Steam and correcting someone about her gender. There's also no way to know whether she was hellbanned, or simply posting comments via Tor. If a new account posts comments via Tor, those comments are autokilled. It's not till the newbie status wears off (i.e. until your username is no longer green in your comments page) that using Tor won't cause your comments to be autokilled. This is done for obvious reasons: spammers use Tor to spam annoying things. Lastly, there are plenty of nefarious things that one can do to be deservedly hellbanned on HN; bans are issued for more reasons than just writing comments. Oh, and, if you are hellbanned and are sincerely sorry for what you did, you can email info@ycombinator.com with a sincere apology and may get leniency. I know from experience.

Can we please get back to letting people unwind about their heartwrenching experiences with mortality now?

Re: What Happens When One of Your Coworkers Dies

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Post by mutagen »

flatline wrote: post #59
kfcm wrote: post #20

I've been through this four times. Three died at home; one at work. These were all at small companies, so we all knew each other--many for decades, and over different jobs. The last two passed away about eleven and twelve years ago. One may think it's haunting to still see e-mails from them in my archives. But the really haunting thing is listening to them speak in the voice mails our phone system e-mailed back then.…

I got a Facebook notification about a friend's birthday the other day, who passed on from brain cancer over two years ago. It is an eerie feeling, for a brief moment it's like she was still alive and well just everyone else on Facebook, and her death was just a bad dream.

I get spam PMs from my deceased cousin from a minor social networking site she joined. Her account has been compromised. I contacted support to provide obituaries and such, I hope they disabled the account. While I don't mind so much, getting these kinds of messages would be horrible for her father.

Re: What Happens When One of Your Coworkers Dies

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Post by pstack »

PavlovsCat wrote: post #102
heed wrote: post #92

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> Sometime it is very difficult for human to understand GOD and his punishment ! What a rude, and offensive thing to say.

"God and his punishments" == "bad things that happen, life being unfair" etc.? I read this as someone trying to give their condolences the best way they know how, according to their beliefs, in a language that is not their native tongue.

Agreed. I don't think the sentiment intended was reflected in the words of their post.

Re: What Happens When One of Your Coworkers Dies

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Post by johnx123-up »

heed wrote: post #92
jigneshg wrote: post #90

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Hi Steven, Sorry to hear your horrible experience loosing good friend and after reading your reply, i feel that the person like him did not deserve such death :( Sometime it is very difficult for human to understand GOD and his punishment !

> Sometime it is very difficult for human to understand GOD and his punishment ! What a rude, and offensive thing to say.

FWIW, I have few Indian friends... This is typical "polite" Indian English
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