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Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

#101

Earlier quoted context omitted.

His comment didn't come across like that at all. He just pointed out that the bitterness and vitriol directed towards Facebook seems detached from the experience of folks who use it to keep in touch with family and friends quite happily.

If you re-read his comment, its filled with as much vitriol and bitterness.

I'm not trying to be hostile. I switched the pronouns to the first-person plural.

Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

#102
Before I yell "Get off my lawn", I'd like to remind what seems to be the main demographic here on HN (you know, the 20 something "me me me" short pants crowd) that people, businesses, start-ups, families, friends, entrepreneurs, new ideas, etc - all got along (and flourished) just fine before all this social media crap.

So stop using the social media drivel, there's many better ways of staying in touch - none of which are facebook, twitter, linkedin, etc.

Now get off my lawn.

Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

#103

Alright, here are my honest gripes with facebook: - Professional contacts. I can't share anything I consider "funny" (in the stupid, I'm-in-my-early-20s way) with friends because I have investors and recruiters and these other professional fucks ready to judge me. - I'm tired of seeing your achievements. God damn just wait until I get some, okay? I don't care if you just started med school and are posting pics of you…

Wow, that's a huge amount of insecurity balled up into a single post. Way to validate the research mate!

Sounds like you need to practice letting go / not caring about your reputation and what other people think, and just be yourself. It may sound trite, but the way you live sounds horrifying!

Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

#104

I bet the outcome of the study changes over time. Sure, Facebook can be a mean place, like the school playground, but you tune it out (both mentally and with software) over time. If you look at how national populations react to internet ads over time, behavior changes, and the same goes with Facebook. In the case of ads, people mostly just become desensitized, and I bet the same goes for the bile on Facebook. Not to…

Too bad Facebook actively punishes third-party client-side software distributions that modify its behavior or function according to user preferences.

Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

#105

Earlier quoted context omitted.

His comment didn't come across like that at all. He just pointed out that the bitterness and vitriol directed towards Facebook seems detached from the experience of folks who use it to keep in touch with family and friends quite happily.

If you re-read his comment, its filled with as much vitriol and bitterness.

Sounds like you're projecting, to me. There's no bitterness in his/her post, just an observation.

Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

#106

Earlier quoted context omitted.

None of those societies are modern by current standard and none had truly stable functioning democracies(russia and china? you can't be serious). I don't have a direct link to a study, but I'll quote this article http://thediplomat.com/2013/02/13/5-ways-china-could-become-... "Statistical analysis shows that authoritarian regimes become progressively more unstable (and democratic transitions more likely) once income…

I can't tell if you're joking to make a point. Japan and Germany aren't "modern" societies? And now you're just shifting the goalposts. You never mentioned anything about democracy in the grandparent post. I would also note that Germany is democratic.

I guess I don't understand your argument;

I said: "No advanced society (past a certain GDP) has slipped back into tyranny"

I bring up Japan and Germany. I assumed you were not talking about modern Japan and Germany, and you were referring to WW2 Japan and Germany. Japan was a monarchy that turned into some kind of fascist monarchic bureaucracy and Germany was a failed state that turned fascist. Neither represent a modern society turning tyrannical. And yes, when I say modern I mean democratic and with a degree of respect to civil liberties (which is basically true for all wealthy countries in the world, save some oil states). There is no use comparing the US to China - that's apples to oranges.

Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

#107

I don't have a facebook account, and I find the idea of using it for keeping in touch with past acquaintances not very alluring and frankly a diatribe. You're not supposed to focus so much on other people's lives. Instead of people growing into better people through self defined improvement, people now seek gratification through others and their acknowledgment. Instead of going to a concert with a few choice friends…

That is not the only use for Facebook, although sadly I think a lot of people view it that way.

Social media is a great way to find out about new things which have been vetted by your social network, meaning you're much more likely to enjoy them. It's like a curated stream of Things of Potential Interest that you can peruse at your leisure.

The social interaction side of things can be very positive when you feel like there is an active community around the things you're doing, and hell, there's nothing wrong with getting Internet High Fives when you post a good run time or achievement.

Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

#108
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Am I the only one who feels the same in technical forums or even in Hacker News? Of course people will talk about things they know (and I come here to see these), but I can't help but have a feeling that I don't know enough, or that I can't keep with the technology and knowledge. Or worse: that I can't even get a good grasp of established tech, or that I am not smart enough. At deeper levels, this probably relate to…

Nope, guess I'm just that smart. ;)

But seriously, everyone comes to tech forums with different levels of ability, experience, understanding, and skill in getting these things across. Geeks are especially prone to under-valuing their talents as most of us are introverts, and tend to self-judge quite harshly.

The best life lesson I've had on this problem (which I've definitely struggled with) was from a very intelligent guy, who came to work at the same company as me when we were both quite new. I was crossing over from my field to a new field which he was very experienced in, and he was doing the same (crossing over into my old field). We naturally connected, and he was completely unconcerned about asking me questions which a person in his new position should have had down in muscle memory by that stage. He didn't care though - he accepted that he didn't know them, and did his best to learn as quickly as possible.

The takeaway: don't tie your self-esteem to your level of knowledge in any particular area. It's definitely the easy path, but it's also a precarious ledge once you're 'there', especially in the tech field. Just accept that your value lies in being able to reason through things, and that you'll always be less knowledgeable about something than someone else (but also conversely, quite likely to be more knowledgeable about something, however esoteric or seemingly useless).

In short, have fun and don't sweat it. Most people are in the same boat. :)

Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

#109
post #73

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> No advanced society (past a certain GDP) has slipped back into tyranny What are you talking about? There are advanced societies today that are in the middle of tyranny (Russia and China come to mind) and there are very well known examples of societies slipping into it (Germany and Japan come to mind). National moods can change surprisingly quickly. Look at gay rights for a recent example in the US--public opinion h…

None of those societies are modern by current standard and none had truly stable functioning democracies(russia and china? you can't be serious). I don't have a direct link to a study, but I'll quote this article http://thediplomat.com/2013/02/13/5-ways-china-could-become-... "Statistical analysis shows that authoritarian regimes become progressively more unstable (and democratic transitions more likely) once income…

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Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

#110

Alright, here are my honest gripes with facebook: - Professional contacts. I can't share anything I consider "funny" (in the stupid, I'm-in-my-early-20s way) with friends because I have investors and recruiters and these other professional fucks ready to judge me. - I'm tired of seeing your achievements. God damn just wait until I get some, okay? I don't care if you just started med school and are posting pics of you…

That sounds awful. You should cut that shit out of your life like it's a bad drug. You don't need it.
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