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Re: Remind HN: Today is Mother's Day, call your moms

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Post by locallost »

Swizec wrote: post #14
alex7o wrote: post #6

How is it mother day isn't that 8 march

March 8 is international women’s day. The most ignored of all holidays by US culture. To an almost hilarious degree. My partner frequently brags that she’s the only of her friends and coworkers, in 10+ years, who has ever gotten flowers for women’s day. Meanwhile even Uber drivers have wished her a happy women’s day in various heavy foreign accents.

Flowers for women's day is another ultimately weird tradition in many countries. Weird because the point of women's day is equality and not to be treated like our little special ladies. I always half jokingly said a more suitable gift would be a mini wrench or a screwdriver.

Re: Remind HN: Today is Mother's Day, call your moms

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Post by rationalist »

signatoremo wrote: post #94
tombert wrote: post #82

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I don't mean to be a douche, but that's an exceedingly ignorant and short-sighted statement. A child doesn't owe their parents anything. If your parent is upset about something about you that you cannot change, then that parent can rightfully go fuck themselves. Kids don't owe their parents anything.

Kids own their parents their very presence. Each person has their own situation so it isn't my place to give specific advice, but each and everyone should pause for a moment on this day, be thankful that they are alive, and consider to do the right thing that they wouldn't regret if they don't do it. Even if you wouldn't call your parents.

Do they really owe that?

I think owing something should be contractual - they consent to owe something in a fair exchange.

A person does not consent to being born.

If someone treats you properly (raises you at least somewhat decently), you don't owe them anything, but you should feel an obligation to thank that person whether it's by saying thank you, or helping them later in their life when they need help.

Re: Remind HN: Today is Mother's Day, call your moms

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Post by pixel_popping »

tombert wrote: post #82
twiclo wrote: post #25

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You should call her

I don't mean to be a douche, but that's an exceedingly ignorant and short-sighted statement. A child doesn't owe their parents anything. If your parent is upset about something about you that you cannot change, then that parent can rightfully go fuck themselves. Kids don't owe their parents anything.

I disagree a bit somehow with the statement as it's a bit too generic, in my perspective, I do owe my parents care when they get older (I don't care about laws, talking about morality), I wouldn't send them in a home waiting for them to die, they'll live with me and my wife until they die, I understand that many might disagree with this, and it's fair if you had shit parents, but if you had parents that genuinely cared and done everything for you, I believe you want to also be fair for the sacrifice they've done and take care of them when they are too old to take care of themselves (or if 1 of them die, luckily I have both of my parents still!).

Can you really consider yourself a good kid if you just let them die in a center? In my eyes, no.

Re: Remind HN: Today is Mother's Day, call your moms

#105

Post by user_7832 »

codeulike wrote: post #34

Unless you're in the UK in which case it was the 15th March and you've already done it (or already missed it)

Or you're in any timezone significantly ahead of the US (so like over 40% of the world's population). It's already 11.35pm here in India, and most moms (and reasonable adults) are already asleep. China/SE Asia/Jp etc are even further ahead.

Better luck next year... I guess?

Re: Remind HN: Today is Mother's Day, call your moms

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Post by user_7832 »

coalstartprob wrote: post #59
Bender wrote: post #2

I'll have a drink in her memory.

cheers mate

Sorry, but seeing your comment being called dead by HN was... amusing.

(I personally think it's okay to be amused, even if it's thanks to dead people. I don't think any mother would really mind too much.)

Re: Remind HN: Today is Mother's Day, call your moms

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Post by tombert »

signatoremo wrote: post #94
tombert wrote: post #82

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I don't mean to be a douche, but that's an exceedingly ignorant and short-sighted statement. A child doesn't owe their parents anything. If your parent is upset about something about you that you cannot change, then that parent can rightfully go fuck themselves. Kids don't owe their parents anything.

Kids own their parents their very presence. Each person has their own situation so it isn't my place to give specific advice, but each and everyone should pause for a moment on this day, be thankful that they are alive, and consider to do the right thing that they wouldn't regret if they don't do it. Even if you wouldn't call your parents.

No one asked to be born. People are only born because their parents brought them into existence.

Re: Remind HN: Today is Mother's Day, call your moms

#108

Post by tombert »

pixel_popping wrote: post #104
tombert wrote: post #82

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I don't mean to be a douche, but that's an exceedingly ignorant and short-sighted statement. A child doesn't owe their parents anything. If your parent is upset about something about you that you cannot change, then that parent can rightfully go fuck themselves. Kids don't owe their parents anything.

I disagree a bit somehow with the statement as it's a bit too generic, in my perspective, I do owe my parents care when they get older (I don't care about laws, talking about morality), I wouldn't send them in a home waiting for them to die, they'll live with me and my wife until they die, I understand that many might disagree with this, and it's fair if you had shit parents, but if you had parents that genuinely car…

You might feel an obligation, but you don't "owe" them anything.

It's pedantic but there's a subtle difference. Doing something for someone because you're grateful for them is fine. I like my parents, I might take care of them when they get older, but I'm doing that because I like them.

> Can you really consider yourself a good kid if you just let them die in a center? In my eyes, no.

Ironically, I think this is too generic. What if your parents were physically or sexually abusive? This isn't hypothetical, there are millions of children that live that reality. Are they "bad kids" because they don't want to help them when they're older?

Re: Remind HN: Today is Mother's Day, call your moms

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Post by lostlogin »

dyauspitr wrote: post #61
unclad5968 wrote: post #51

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Second Sunday of May in the US

Why do they do this? Why not just have a fixed date for these things? Is it so people can use the weekend to celebrate?

If it was a fixed day it would end up being a week day a lot of the time.

Maybe that doesn’t matter, but it’s nice to have on a weekend.

Maybe I’m missing what you mean?

Re: Remind HN: Today is Mother's Day, call your moms

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Post by chatmasta »

codeulike wrote: post #34

Unless you're in the UK in which case it was the 15th March and you've already done it (or already missed it)

If you’re American living in the UK you get double the number of weekends freaking out thinking you missed it. Those signs go up in February…
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