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Re: Life as an OnlyFans 'chatter'

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Post by jacquesm »

autoexec wrote: post #22

How is this not fraud, or at least false advertising? If I'm paying money to chat with a specific sex worker how is it even legal to let some random dude in a third world country pretend to be the person I'm supposed to be talking to? I've never personally engaged in these types of systems, but I don't think there's a problem with them as long as they are run honestly. It sounds like Onlyfans is exploiting workers an…

You sound upset.

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Re: Life as an OnlyFans 'chatter'

#102

Post by TheOtherHobbes »

asdff wrote: post #77
localuser13 wrote: post #54

Earlier quoted context omitted.

>To pay for a human connection, take someone out for a dinner, and foot the bill. I'm married now, and never used any parasocial platform OnlyFans or another, but trivializing the problem of young adult loneliness is either ignorant or condescending. A large fraction of young males don't have anyone to "take out for a dinner", or at least have no idea how to initiate that. You may scoff at that, but I certainly would…

Taking someone out for a dinner and footing the bill does not require you to be some cassanova. Escort services are a thing and honestly somewhat increasingly normalized. The latest chris hemsworth movie had him using an escort and didn't paint him as weird for it or anything, kind of just seemed like a gym membership or any other service the way it was casually broached (he played a certain healthy/rich/clean cut pr…

LA is weird and not everyone wants to live there.

Escort services are still a very niche interest in most of the world.

And they provide a simulacrum of human connection.

Re: Life as an OnlyFans 'chatter'

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Post by LightBug1 »

"OnlyFans, which generated $7.2bn (£5.3bn) revenue in 2024" ...

Holy mother of ... the feet business is booming.

I kind of regret studying 3 years of economics ... we studied the rational consumer maximising their utility. Is this what that looks like? (LOL)

Re: Life as an OnlyFans 'chatter'

#104

Post by sneak »

hackyhacky wrote: post #46
steve_adams_86 wrote: post #26

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It appears a lot of people using OF are using it as a parasocial medium, not strictly for porn. They want to believe they're actually in touch with the performer and part of their lives to some degree.

Yes, and it's sad. I wish someone would create a business that profits from people forming actual connections with each other, but every opportunity has been displaced. Dating sites replaces meeting IRL, and foster superficial relationships anyway. Bars are passé. Social clubs, golf clubs, etc, seem to belong to a past generation. Social media killed the social part. The damage to society is real.

They did, but it turns out that people’s most common social activity/interest is sex-based.

Omegle wasn’t known for making BFFs.

Re: Life as an OnlyFans 'chatter'

#105

Post by sneak »

sequoia wrote: post #96

I find it sad that there's a story of people (mostly women) doing this disgusting job for little pay (yes, chatting up horny men online because you need the money is disgusting, there's no glamour and little dignity to it), and the top comment is how this is unfair to the john (purchaser of sex work) because it's misleading.

Sex work is work. They’re not being coerced. There’s no more or less dignity to it than being a waitress or checkout clerk. It’s no more or less disgusting than being a hospice nurse or a garbage collector.

It’s just a job.

Jobs are not inherently fraudulent, however. A deal is a deal, and this is plainly fraud.

It is unfair to the purchaser, and it is not unfair to the people who voluntarily accept these jobs (when other jobs are obviously available).

Re: Life as an OnlyFans 'chatter'

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Post by orthoxerox »

asdff wrote: post #77
localuser13 wrote: post #54

Earlier quoted context omitted.

>To pay for a human connection, take someone out for a dinner, and foot the bill. I'm married now, and never used any parasocial platform OnlyFans or another, but trivializing the problem of young adult loneliness is either ignorant or condescending. A large fraction of young males don't have anyone to "take out for a dinner", or at least have no idea how to initiate that. You may scoff at that, but I certainly would…

Taking someone out for a dinner and footing the bill does not require you to be some cassanova. Escort services are a thing and honestly somewhat increasingly normalized. The latest chris hemsworth movie had him using an escort and didn't paint him as weird for it or anything, kind of just seemed like a gym membership or any other service the way it was casually broached (he played a certain healthy/rich/clean cut pr…

Escorting is more similar to OF than to "real" dating. In both cases the "service provider" pretends to be a perfect match for the customer, actively molding their persona to fit them. The more someone interacts with such tailored experiences the harder it is to adjust to the "real" experience.

Which is probably fine if you're a successful man in his 40s who has more time than money and treats escorting as a shortcut. Not so fine if you're a man half his age who is struggling to find a partner.

Re: Life as an OnlyFans 'chatter'

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Post by TheOtherHobbes »

asdff wrote: post #81
hackyhacky wrote: post #46

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Yes, and it's sad. I wish someone would create a business that profits from people forming actual connections with each other, but every opportunity has been displaced. Dating sites replaces meeting IRL, and foster superficial relationships anyway. Bars are passé. Social clubs, golf clubs, etc, seem to belong to a past generation. Social media killed the social part. The damage to society is real.

Every time someone says something like this, I can think of examples of every point just from the limited scope of my own life to the contrary, which from the frequency it happens I'm guessing indicates my experience isn't so unique and the world isn't this doom and gloom black and white world as described on the internet. People still meet serendipitously. People still go out. The golf club at my municipal course st…

Golf clubs are super niche and self-selecting.

There are almost no spaces left which are easily discoverable by "analog" means without relying at all on social media.

The UK used to have a very strong pub and club culture. That's been collapsing for most of this century - some of it helped by government legislation.

This hasn't changed direction recently.

https://www.stevestewartwilliams.com/p/graph-of-the-day-how-...

Re: Life as an OnlyFans 'chatter'

#108

Post by phendrenad2 »

swiftcoder wrote: post #37
mhb wrote: post #23

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Please say what you think the hourly average wage is in the Philippines and how you conclude that this isn't the woman's best option despite her revealed preference that it is.

I don't think you and I are disagreeing here? The article explicitly states that she only took this work because she couldn't find other work, and that she dislikes the work intensely (... but has no better job prospects)

So what is your point exactly? That we as a society should see to it that no matter how much sex work pays, we provide an equally high-paying and easy job for people? What do you propose?

Re: Life as an OnlyFans 'chatter'

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Post by nradov »

enriquto wrote: post #89
autoexec wrote: post #22

How is this not fraud, or at least false advertising? If I'm paying money to chat with a specific sex worker how is it even legal to let some random dude in a third world country pretend to be the person I'm supposed to be talking to? I've never personally engaged in these types of systems, but I don't think there's a problem with them as long as they are run honestly. It sounds like Onlyfans is exploiting workers an…

> It sounds like Onlyfans is exploiting workers and their own customers. But this is the basic principle of capitalism. The company exploits workers (in order to obtain a net benefit from their work), and exploits customers (by selling the lowest-quality, most expensive product it can manage to). Companies that don't behave like that get out-competed by companies that do. This dynamic is the root of our economic syst…

Under capitalism, man exploits man. Under communism, it is the reverse.

Re: Life as an OnlyFans 'chatter'

#110

Post by 9rx »

autoexec wrote: post #22

How is this not fraud, or at least false advertising? If I'm paying money to chat with a specific sex worker how is it even legal to let some random dude in a third world country pretend to be the person I'm supposed to be talking to? I've never personally engaged in these types of systems, but I don't think there's a problem with them as long as they are run honestly. It sounds like Onlyfans is exploiting workers an…

Just wait until you find out that a MrBeast burger is not made by, or of!, the guy who plays MrBeast on TV either.
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