And drinking to much water is also bad.
We already know that too much of anything is bad and that virtue is in the middle.
Please stop writing articles like this.
Being too ambitious is a clever form of self-sabotage
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#102The «taste-skill» thing is something you often see in music. Those with great taste, but limited ability, tend to pursue roles like promotion, agents, producing, etc.
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#103Earlier quoted context omitted.
This is exactly why I’m wary of ever attempting a developer-focused startup ever again. What’s not mentioned is the utter frustration when you can see your own output is not up to your own expectations, but you can’t execute on any plan to resolve that discrepancy. “I know what developers want, so I can build it for them” is a death knell proportionate to your own standards… The most profitable business I built was s…
a developer-focused startup I'm sorry to tell you it doesn't just apply to developer-focused startups!
Within every startup, there is a developer-focused startup that is trying to get out. I suppose that is because it is easier for people to think about problems that affect them directly.
Or maybe it's the only way in which companies these days give software developers agency.
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#104Earlier quoted context omitted.
This is the disconnect between proponents and detractors of AI. Detractors say it's the process and learning that builds depth. Proponents say it doesn't matter because the tool exists and will always exist. It's interesting seeing people argue about AI, because they're plainly not speaking about the same issue and simply talking past each other.
I usually see the opposite. Detractors from AI often refuse to learn how to use it or argue that it doesn't do everything perfectly so you shouldn't use it. Proponents say it's the process and learning that builds depth and you have to learn how to use it well before you can have a sensible opinion about it. The same disconnect was in place for every major piece of technology, from mechanical weaving, to mechanical c…
>> Proponents say it's the process and learning that builds depth and you have to learn how to use it well before you can have a sensible opinion about it.
That's like telling a chef they'll improve their cooking skills by adding a can of soup to everything.
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#105Have to admit (I added to a snark comment about Substack and productivity blogs when this was posted), it addresses a problem that is plaguing myself.
Still not sure if it will help me overcome this, but the "quitting point" concept and the drawing example made it a good read for me.
Not 100% the same, but I've also heard there is a correlation between procrastrination and perfectionism, narcisissm (not only grandiosity, also vulnerabity and low self-esteem):
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11353843/#sec3-ijer...
Relevant proverbs are plenty... "There is no failure except in no longer trying" etc
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#106This syndrome is called "eternal child" (puer aeternus) in psychology. You were destined to great things. You were exceptional as a child, you learnt to associate your great potential with all the good in yourself, you built your identity around it. You were ahead of your peers in elementary school, whatever you applied towards - you exceled at. So you value that potential as the ultimate good, and any decision which…
wow. you put into words what i've been experiencing but never understanding. thank you.
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#107> being too ambitious is a clever form of self-sabotage
Nice, I‘m clever!
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#108> the "taste-skill discrepancy." Your taste (your ability to recognize quality) develops faster than your skill (your ability to produce it). This creates what Ira Glass famously called "the gap," but I think of it as the thing that separates creators from consumers. This resonated quite strongly with me. It puts into words something that I've been feeling when working with AI. If you're new to something and using AI…
This is Rick Rubin pretty much. He has 100/100 in taste, but almost 0/100 in skill. He can't really play an instrument, but he knows exactly what works and what doesn't and can articulate it.
That’s an odd take for a massively successful person. In the realm of producing hip-hop, his taste and skill are at the top of the industry.
Sort of like saying Bill Belichick has a skill gap because he’s not a top NFL player. AFAIK he never played pro ball at all (and college wasn’t at a top D1 program). Bit, he’s undeniably one of the most successful coaches in the business.
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#109This syndrome is called "eternal child" (puer aeternus) in psychology. You were destined to great things. You were exceptional as a child, you learnt to associate your great potential with all the good in yourself, you built your identity around it. You were ahead of your peers in elementary school, whatever you applied towards - you exceled at. So you value that potential as the ultimate good, and any decision which…
Oh God So, what is the lesson here? Gotta let go of pride and risk it for the biscuit (ship something)?
And what's the lesson for parents? Can it be counter productive to praise your child a lot?
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Oh God So, what is the lesson here? Gotta let go of pride and risk it for the biscuit (ship something)?
And what's the lesson for parents? Can it be counter productive to praise your child a lot?
Praise the effort not the result. And especially don't make it into identity of the child.
Best: good job studying for that exam.
Meh: good job passing that exam.
Worst: you so smart, everything comes easy to you.