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I built something that changed my friend group's social fabric

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Re: I built something that changed my friend group's social fabric

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Post by ghostly_s »

jedimastert wrote: post #60
Arainach wrote: post #54

I didn't see this in the article, but why not just organize the games in a Discord text channel? Discord has very granular notifications that seem the perfect solution here, so folks can see there are unread messages in #games, and the folks gaming are already on the server. One big noisy chat for everything is an antipattern, as any group of sufficient size eventually learns.

The discord of '22 was, iirc, very different from now, or at least the culture around it. It looks like they just only used it for a single voice chat lobby

The piece was published this week, and yall seem to be missing the point. The goal is to let people know when a VC is happening amongst this group, not to do party matching for whatever game is being played.

Re: I built something that changed my friend group's social fabric

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Post by mock-possum »

donatj wrote: post #20

Mildly reminds me how being online on AIM or ICQ was an actual invitation to chat. I had so many interesting conversations with people I barely knew. There's no source of that signal that someone is open to chitchat these days, and it's in my opinion kind of killed what was once great about online communication.

There are a billion communities using discord and telegram to do basically what you’re describing - topic rooms, hangout rooms, you can change your online status to signal your willingness to ge sociable.

Re: I built something that changed my friend group's social fabric

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Post by reg_dunlop »

RugnirViking wrote: post #93
nemomarx wrote: post #72

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The Internet used to be semi literally a place you went - a desktop in the corner of some room, not central on a desk, not in your pocket. And with a ritual to access it on top of that and the dial up sounds and all. It's more present but also more invisible now, yeah.

honestly ive been thinking about this stuff too. a hypothetical forum you could only log on to read if you idled on a certain page for 15 mins or something would probably have a lot higher standard of discussion and be a lot better for peoples lives, for example. The most minute of barriers requiring you to deliberately and consciously join and leave...

Reminds me of https://diewithme.online/ which I just learned about.

Not exactly the same as your idea, but definitely in the same vein of "only available under a certain condition"

Re: I built something that changed my friend group's social fabric

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Post by [deleted] »

nottorp wrote: post #97
ryandrake wrote: post #84

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Yes, If you purposely turn off all notifications on your phone, and/or live on DND mode 24/7, you quickly learn to adapt to this world where using the internet is a deliberate action. Sanity sets in: you are deciding when to use your phone or computer, not an algorithm, or other people. You’re back in the driver’s seat, like it’s 2002 again! It’s very freeing.

In 2002 i was still turning icq notifications off i think :)

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Re: I built something that changed my friend group's social fabric

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Post by tetris11 »

timerol wrote: post #99
tetris11 wrote: post #44

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genuinely unbelievable that the story is so highly voted with such a vague title

The clickbait makes you click, and the story is about a cool hack, so you upvote. I don't see how this is unbelievable

hn readers aren't usually so easily baited

Re: I built something that changed my friend group's social fabric

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Post by Deebster »

juliansimioni wrote: post #83
101008 wrote: post #66

Earlier quoted context omitted.

This is something I've always wanted to write about, and I imagine that someday I'll end up with a long article, but basically, it's the idea that the internet used to be offline by default, and now it's online by default. People used to be offline by default. You had to “connect to the internet.” Open MSN, go into forums and check the latest unread messages, come back from a concert and manually upload the photos to…

It's wild, and absolutely worth writing about, that at some point in recent years, the concept of "AFK" basically ceased to exist. Yes, we aren't technically near a keyboard most of the time today, but we are never AFK in a conceptual sense. Even when sleeping.

I play badminton, which has games that are about ten minutes long. I've noticed an uptick in the number of times I've had to stop and wait for someone I'm playing with to read a message on their smartwatch. I'm terminally online, but I can disconnect long enough for a game or a film - I seem to be increasingly in the minority.

Re: I built something that changed my friend group's social fabric

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Post by andai »

101008 wrote: post #66
donatj wrote: post #20

Mildly reminds me how being online on AIM or ICQ was an actual invitation to chat. I had so many interesting conversations with people I barely knew. There's no source of that signal that someone is open to chitchat these days, and it's in my opinion kind of killed what was once great about online communication.

This is something I've always wanted to write about, and I imagine that someday I'll end up with a long article, but basically, it's the idea that the internet used to be offline by default, and now it's online by default. People used to be offline by default. You had to “connect to the internet.” Open MSN, go into forums and check the latest unread messages, come back from a concert and manually upload the photos to…

No matter where you are, everyone is always connected...

Re: I built something that changed my friend group's social fabric

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Post by joseda-hg »

donatj wrote: post #20

Mildly reminds me how being online on AIM or ICQ was an actual invitation to chat. I had so many interesting conversations with people I barely knew. There's no source of that signal that someone is open to chitchat these days, and it's in my opinion kind of killed what was once great about online communication.

My group of friends gets something really close to OP, because of our music bot (Which only pings everyone on specific events, like the music queue running out, uncommon enough that it doesn't get annoying, and never more than once a session)

Re: I built something that changed my friend group's social fabric

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Post by udev4096 »

Going from signal to discord is crazy. How can you be OK with knowing that your personal voice chats are being monitored, recorded and sold to the next highest bidder? How can it be so easy to choose convenience over that? Or is it that we have essentially given up and wanna actively take a part in mass surveillance?
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