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Ask HN: Looking for advice on my situation at work?
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Re: Ask HN: Looking for advice on my situation at work?
#103A similar situation happened to me this last year at a small startup. In the end I determined, after exhausting what felt like all my options, that the only thing I could change was myself and I left the company. It's wasn't an easy choice, and it's still hard to figure out where to put the anger and the betrayal when it pops up. It's easy to sacrifice one's happiness in an effort to validate one's effort. I saw myse…
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Re: Ask HN: Looking for advice on my situation at work?
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Re: Ask HN: Looking for advice on my situation at work?
#105Your manager is obviously hoping you will just leave and save him the hassle of managing you out if the business.
IMO: talking to him about the situation is a mistake and may force his hand. You’ll be out on a PIP and setup to fail.
Line up another job - then talk to your manager.
Don’t burn any bridges with the current company. No point trying to get petty revenge on your current manager. You’ve just found a better opportunity and can’t turn it down.
Re: Ask HN: Looking for advice on my situation at work?
#106This happened to me. I was eventually laid-off in favor of the guy with less experience (my 20 years vs his 4). I have a tonne of experience vs his just starting to use linux when he was onboarded. I had been with the company for 6 years. We both made the same $. It was fucking horrible. Tell them how you feel about the situation. Start looking elsewhere.
I'd advice against 'tell then how you feel about the situation', I'd rather not voice what I feel (as it may be that I'm biased or that it would let too much of information out). The advice to start looking and interviewing is good thing to do, don't tell anyone that you are doing this as there is good chance this information will spread.
Re: Ask HN: Looking for advice on my situation at work?
#107Move on
Re: Ask HN: Looking for advice on my situation at work?
#108I have seen nepotism first hand so I know it is a real thing.
But in the same time I also have been in situation where I hated a manager from another division who was clear he wanted to take over my team. I did not manage those emotions well enough, and they were easy to exploit. Also the fact that the guy was having regular evening phone calls with people from my team, led to creation of very toxic situation. People can be very methodic when they really want to achieve something, in such situation you are either more methodic or you submit to the situation. In such situation a lot depends on who you can talk to in your workplace and what is their position in hierarchy.
I'd advice you calm down and make a mental work of decoupling your life at work from emotions you experience. Make yourself a list of priorities that you want to achieve and work towards achieving them in a well planned way. If making more money is one of them then you need to have plan B which you can fall back if/when you don't get that in your current place. If having nice environment at work is another item on your list then you want to work around your emotions/ambitions or jump to another company.
I personally would start making moves to leave as soon as I was asked to train my replacement. But again the situation is probably a bit more complicated than you think it is - or maybe it is not? :)
Good luck.