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Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas

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Re: Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas

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Post by pferdone »

deepersprout wrote: post #42

I think this whole christmas thing makes a lot of people feel alone and depressed. I hate that. Posts like these make me think this even more. I am alone, and I like it. I can play Warzone and code some stuff I wanted to finish. I can do things I like. I know this may sound stupid, but if you feel alone, don't. There is no reason to. It's just a day like many others. There is really nothing to it. And we don't need "…

I get your point of view, but for a lot of people it's not. Friends leave for family, life comes to a hold in a lot of countries (shops closed etc.) and the whole vibe created around this day screams togetherness (family, friends, and so on). Some people don't need it. But there can be people that feel left out, although they like to be left alone, because everyone suddenly adjusts to that time and they don't.

What I'm trying to say, why do we not just take posts like these and accept that it can do something positive for people. Nothing more nothing less. This bit by Ricky Gervais perfectly sums your post up for me: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L3dxMGzt5mU

Re: Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas

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Post by FourthProtocol »

pixelbreaker wrote: post #87
deepersprout wrote: post #42

I think this whole christmas thing makes a lot of people feel alone and depressed. I hate that. Posts like these make me think this even more. I am alone, and I like it. I can play Warzone and code some stuff I wanted to finish. I can do things I like. I know this may sound stupid, but if you feel alone, don't. There is no reason to. It's just a day like many others. There is really nothing to it. And we don't need "…

Agreed, posts like this exacerbate the feeling of being alone. I'm alone this Christmas, and it's bloody great, a morning of simracing, followed by pizza and a nap then maybe watch die hard. A large proportion of people seem to make the assumption that being with family is amazing and everyone should do it. But if your family are largely arseholes, then why waste your time and energy?

This so much. My wife and son are in France with the parents in-law. I refused to go because racism and bigotry and, and, and... I have also loved being alone my entire life. I made a bird feeder this morning.

Re: Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas

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Post by andreisbc »

I'm looking to move and work in the US this year, together with my wife (she's a phd, I'm a dropout, both coming from the EU). Our plan is to grow a remote dev team to build cool products. We have access to professionals and can also tap into universities for promising students. If anyone feels like Santa, I can share my Linkedin profile. Best wishes

Re: Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas

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Post by FourthProtocol »

DeusExMachina wrote: post #98
deepersprout wrote: post #42

I think this whole christmas thing makes a lot of people feel alone and depressed. I hate that. Posts like these make me think this even more. I am alone, and I like it. I can play Warzone and code some stuff I wanted to finish. I can do things I like. I know this may sound stupid, but if you feel alone, don't. There is no reason to. It's just a day like many others. There is really nothing to it. And we don't need "…

You might think you are helping people, but you are not. You can't argue against solitude. If people feel alone, it's because they would like to be around others, but can't. Telling them not to feel that way "just because" is useless, and telling them they should feel like you do because you decided it's better is just condescending.

Being christmas I feel being charitable is apropos. You're right, and GP means well.

Re: Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas

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Post by acomjean »

mindcrime wrote: post #22

Same. I plan to sleep in today (haven't even gone to bed yet, still up from the 24th). I finished up watching Doctor Who: Flux a little while ago, about to head to bed, and when I get up later today after sleeping for a while I'm just going to go fish for a bit, come back home, cook, and spend the rest of the day vegging out and watching Netflix, Prime, whatever, maybe do some reading, yadda yadda. My family all live…

“A festivus for the rest of us”

I got to get my aluminum pile from the crawl space for next year.

https://youtu.be/1njzgXSzA-A

Looking at this again in context of this thread no it’s commentary becomes clearer.

Re: Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas

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Post by LilBytes »

glitchcrab wrote: post #79
ecornflak wrote: post #56

My mum died in January and my Dad died a couple of weeks ago. We didn’t do much for Christmas as a family but I keep thinking of the interesting things to tell my Dad about that he’s not around to tell. He’d almost certainly be watching the James Webb Telescope launch

My dad also died a couple of weeks ago, but I feel like I've handled it fairly well (better than expected anyway). We used to talk quite a bit and I too keep finding myself thinking that I must tell him about things I've seen or read; you're not alone. Hope you're doing ok today.

I'm glad you're feeling well all things considered. If or perhaps when that changes, don't hold it against yourself.

That type of grief is humbling, initially destructive and absolutely crippling. I've experienced that loss and found the highs and lows to be challenging, but what ever feelings you have, you're not alone. It doesn't get easier, but, the pain does become familiar and less frequent.

Best of luck to you.

Re: Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas

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Post by mahathu »

abzug wrote: post #20

Thank you for this gesture. I lost almost everything. Job, 7-year relationship, my mental health. Feeling that I'm not only alone but inadequate to have a life like anybody else. I'm still alive, so there's that.

Going by your username, are you German as well?

I'm also going through a breakup right now, albeit from a shorter relationship. I was happy to spend Christmas with my sister to have some illusion of a functional family, it was nice. It feels unbearable at times but I try to find solace in the fact the world is so vast and full of opportunity and so much more than what you're (I am) able to see in the current moment. Your plan to study to become a programmer sounds great and you'll be in a much different place in a year than you are now. Hope you can pull through until then.

Re: Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas

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Post by upstarter »

goodpoint wrote: post #81
upstarter wrote: post #53

Nobody in this World has ever been alone. Everybody has their team of guides in the higher dimensions, and they are never on vacation, they are present every second of every day and every night. You just need to learn to perceive them and to connect to them.

> Everybody has their team of guides in the higher dimensions Citation needed. I'd rather be reminded that we share the planet with 7.9 billion other humans. A tiny planet all alone in an immense universe. On this planet we are all alone, together.

> Citation needed.

_Experience needed_ is what you're actually saying. For those living exclusively in the material dimension and who are thus having a hard time with the subtle dimensions, psychedelics may give you that break-through experience that you need as a starting point.

Re: Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas

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Post by yodsanklai »

axegon_ wrote: post #51

Don't sweat it. I generally ignore holidays: I don't care about them. I spent this Christian with my parents largely because they insisted. I think with age I start carrying less and less about holidays. When I was 20, spending say new years alone sounded like a nightmare. At 32 last new year, I spent it on the couch with my dog watching movies and building a huge ass Lego set and to be completely honest it was proba…

Same here... I've spent so many xmas/nye alone that I'm totally indifferent to it. It's really like any other day. Also I can use the holiday to rest or travel to warm countries instead of over-eating and drinking.
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