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How Inuit parents teach kids to control their anger (2019)

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Re: How Inuit parents teach kids to control their anger (2019)

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Inuit people have terrible life outcomes with disease, alcoholism, and suicide, and while there might be a lot of reasons for this, I would still take any of their examples with a grain of salt.

Yeah it’s not great for your society when you’ve been conquered.

Re: How Inuit parents teach kids to control their anger (2019)

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post #93

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The Inuit are around 4% of Canada's Indigenous population, so I'd be surprised if many of the people committing those murders were raised with this particular traditional Inuit anger-management strategy.

"Inuit make up only 5% of Canada’s population, but in 2018 they made up 22% of the country’s homicide victims." >so I'd be surprised if many of the people committing those murders were raised with this particular traditional Inuit anger-management strategy. So what do you wanna really say with that?

You changed the meaning in your quote: "First Nations, Métis and Inuit make up only 5% of Canada’s population, but in 2018 they made up 22% of the country’s homicide victims."

There's a massive inferential gap between Inuit children in the 1960s being taught to control their anger like this and Indigenous people being murdered now.

- How common are these parenting techniques across Indigenous populations?

- What sorts of people are committing those murders? Why?

You brought up the murder rate to claim that this "Does not seam to work very well", but linking this one method of teaching Inuit children emotional regulation to Indigenous murders is a big stretch in many different ways.

There are many issues these populations face, but it's unlikely that many of them stem from any particularly good (emotional regulation?) or bad (spanking?) parenting technique used on 3 year olds.

Re: How Inuit parents teach kids to control their anger (2019)

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Please don't go on about downvotes like that. It's tediously meta and breaks the site rules: https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html .

My apologies, all the more so because this is something I dislike in comments myself. I was genuinely surprised by this though in a way I haven't been by previous downvotes. "Everyone" so to speak were getting down votes and the only common factor I could find was the link itself, which as far as I could tell was entirely unproblematic unless it was referencing some studies which were widely acknowledged to be bad sc…

Appreciated! I know it sucks to get a mod reply like that.

Re: How Inuit parents teach kids to control their anger (2019)

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I remember in high school learning electrons were balls. Then, later I learn they are actually fields. Was I lied to?

Yes, but only in an educative and reductionist way, in order to help your brain being able to grasp an idea, by introducing a simplified model of it before jumping into the details...

I wouldn't expect toddlers to fully grasp the dangers of the sea either, and it seems that the Inuit's "sea monster" serves equally as a simplified model -- just simplified further for a younger mind.

Re: How Inuit parents teach kids to control their anger (2019)

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I always find this kind of title weird.

Coming from a relatively "homogenous" (for lack of a better word) ethnicity, I think I can see a point to generalize something like "this is how X people teach their children math", but "control anger"? This seems to me a very personalized thing that varies wildly from family to family.

Re: How Inuit parents teach kids to control their anger (2019)

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Some of the stuff in here is obvious stuff that nonetheless is great to get reminders of, like leading by example. There was a unique piece that really intrigues me: Putting on a play/putting on a drama. "Putting on a drama" seems like a pretty romanticized way to say it, but if I understand correctly, it's practicing better responses to events that led to bad behavior. "Johnny, I'm going to steal your toy, and inste…

And it seems to me that deliberately teaching and practicing these methods in early childhood -- like in school -- could have profound implications. Right now, my impression is that public schools tend to take the approach of letting social skills develop organically through peer interactions. This seems like a huge missed opportunity.

Re: How Inuit parents teach kids to control their anger (2019)

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The article you linked talks about indigenous people being murdered, not committing murders. So what do you wanna really say with that?

Murdered by white Canadian males...that's what you wanna say? https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/ppvx8g/a-closer-look-at-n...

That article doesn't support your claim that this parenting style doesn't work, if anything, it refutes it:

> Nunavut has the highest per-capita murder rate in the country, but statistics can be misleading.

> Nunavut is in line with the national Homicide Survey: a large percentage of murders are committed when the assailant is under the influence of alcohol.

> if you took another area similar in housing shortages and alcoholism, you would have a similar crime rate.

> "It's a little unfair to look at Nunavut and the crime rate that it has and sort of assume that it's all Nunavut's fault," he said.

The geographic and economic uniqueness of Nunavut are gigantic uncontrolled variables in your assertion that the cultural correlation is causation.

Re: How Inuit parents teach kids to control their anger (2019)

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I always find this kind of title weird. Coming from a relatively "homogenous" (for lack of a better word) ethnicity, I think I can see a point to generalize something like "this is how X people teach their children math", but "control anger"? This seems to me a very personalized thing that varies wildly from family to family.

Why? This is the "hard skills are real, soft skills aren't" dynamic I see so often (Hello, I'm the PM in a room full of Engineers).

Your first mistake is that teaching itself is very personalized and varies wildly from family to family. If we're willing to accept the premise that there are some commonalities among families from the same culture, then how they teach social skills important to that culture would likely be at the top of the list of things that would exist

Re: How Inuit parents teach kids to control their anger (2019)

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post #97

Inuit people have terrible life outcomes with disease, alcoholism, and suicide, and while there might be a lot of reasons for this, I would still take any of their examples with a grain of salt.

That's only because they have been dominated by Western culture.

Remember that they have prospered for thousands of years in a difficult environment, where everyone needs to help each other and you have to get along if the tribe is to survive.

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