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What I’ve Been Doing Since Quitting My Job

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Re: What I’ve Been Doing Since Quitting My Job

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Post by rejectedalot »

greggman wrote: post #74

I glad it worked out for the author but so far it hasn't worked out for me. It's been 5 years which wasn't my plan. I thought it would be 6 months until I figured out what I want to do. Things that happened. Travelled: found it mostly extremely lonely to travel alone. Got sick of seeing the same things (this place's contemporary art museum, that place's famous church). Of course I saw some amazing things but I now th…

It seems like you get a lot of your feeling of meaning and contentedness from social interaction. From what you’re saying about how travel, projects, etc don’t seem as fulfilling anymore, it really seems to me like you have some depressive tendencies.

I’m not a doctor, but just as a friend, I think you should really try to think of dealing with that existential sadness as a priority - not as an annoyance. Spending real time and energy towards improving your mental health could have real impact on every other aspect of your life.

Re: What I’ve Been Doing Since Quitting My Job

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Post by stevenwoo »

greggman wrote: post #74

I glad it worked out for the author but so far it hasn't worked out for me. It's been 5 years which wasn't my plan. I thought it would be 6 months until I figured out what I want to do. Things that happened. Travelled: found it mostly extremely lonely to travel alone. Got sick of seeing the same things (this place's contemporary art museum, that place's famous church). Of course I saw some amazing things but I now th…

Hey greggman, Drop me line if you want to commiserate!

Re: What I’ve Been Doing Since Quitting My Job

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Post by hedvig »

rejectedalot wrote: post #101
greggman wrote: post #74

I glad it worked out for the author but so far it hasn't worked out for me. It's been 5 years which wasn't my plan. I thought it would be 6 months until I figured out what I want to do. Things that happened. Travelled: found it mostly extremely lonely to travel alone. Got sick of seeing the same things (this place's contemporary art museum, that place's famous church). Of course I saw some amazing things but I now th…

It seems like you get a lot of your feeling of meaning and contentedness from social interaction. From what you’re saying about how travel, projects, etc don’t seem as fulfilling anymore, it really seems to me like you have some depressive tendencies. I’m not a doctor, but just as a friend, I think you should really try to think of dealing with that existential sadness as a priority - not as an annoyance. Spending re…

2 books I recently read that point to social connection as essential to meaning and well-being are Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions by Johann Hari, and Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging by Sebastian Junger.

Re: What I’ve Been Doing Since Quitting My Job

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Post by ataturk »

greggman wrote: post #74

I glad it worked out for the author but so far it hasn't worked out for me. It's been 5 years which wasn't my plan. I thought it would be 6 months until I figured out what I want to do. Things that happened. Travelled: found it mostly extremely lonely to travel alone. Got sick of seeing the same things (this place's contemporary art museum, that place's famous church). Of course I saw some amazing things but I now th…

Try "What Color is Your Parachute" if you want to get back to work. Admittedly, the longer you are out, the harder it is to get back, but some employer somewhere will want you I bet.

I hear you about "older." Only in my 40s and it's getting harder. Can't imagine 50s as a software dev.

Re: What I’ve Been Doing Since Quitting My Job

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Post by imranq »

greggman wrote: post #74

I glad it worked out for the author but so far it hasn't worked out for me. It's been 5 years which wasn't my plan. I thought it would be 6 months until I figured out what I want to do. Things that happened. Travelled: found it mostly extremely lonely to travel alone. Got sick of seeing the same things (this place's contemporary art museum, that place's famous church). Of course I saw some amazing things but I now th…

If you’re in one place for a year, try volunteering as an EMT. Gain some different skills, meet good people and get a different life experience.

Re: What I’ve Been Doing Since Quitting My Job

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Post by BeetleB »

blunte wrote: post #73
matte_black wrote: post #68

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You need to use the right commenting style for the right situations. This particular style of comment is best used when you want to emphasize that what a person just said is only one perspective and that there exists an equally valid opposing perspective. It works even better if the original post was written with a tone of superiority, though it’s not required. It wouldn’t be surprising to find it commonly used on HN…

It is quite possible that one may judge a statement as being superior when in fact it was not written as such. In that case, the reader could perhaps have some other emotion (inferiority?) coloring their perception. Who is to say how the echo style of reply is generally seen, but I find it snarky. It seems less like saying, "I have a quite alternate point of view" and more like saying, "the originally presented view…

>But this is all meta, and HN isn't a forum for us to be debating communication skills.

It's as important as any in society, as well as the workplace. You're generally not going to get very far with technical brilliance alone.

>Doing so is more futile amongst a group often known for lacking in communication skills in inverse proportion to their intellectual skills.

Given the number of submissions on the topic in the last month or two, I think the HN crowd would disagree with you.

Re: What I’ve Been Doing Since Quitting My Job

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Post by ataturk »

anoncoward111 wrote: post #35
m1n1 wrote: post #4

how does he pay the bills? and how about health insurance?

disclaimer: i'm a health insurance broker if you have non-poverty-level income, you can buy a policy for about $300-500 a month through most state exchanges if you have poverty-level income (no stock dividends, no capital gains, havent worked w2 job in years), then you can qualify for Medicaid another option is to open a 1-2 employee LLC or LLP and buy small group health insurance. typically these plans are about $5-…

When I was between jobs last year, I did not find any "$300-500" per month. No! I ended up doing COBRA and spending $1400/month, which is a mortgage! Had I found more reasonable health insurance I would not have jumped at the first offer I got and put myself in the situation I am in now.

Shit, at $500/mo for health ins. I could have actually stayed inside my budget and really improved my career. Now I'm sitting here, it's a year later, and I'm a year older, and still wondering how the hell to pull of the next decade of employment (or whatever).

Re: What I’ve Been Doing Since Quitting My Job

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Post by maccam94 »

rejectedalot wrote: post #101
greggman wrote: post #74

I glad it worked out for the author but so far it hasn't worked out for me. It's been 5 years which wasn't my plan. I thought it would be 6 months until I figured out what I want to do. Things that happened. Travelled: found it mostly extremely lonely to travel alone. Got sick of seeing the same things (this place's contemporary art museum, that place's famous church). Of course I saw some amazing things but I now th…

It seems like you get a lot of your feeling of meaning and contentedness from social interaction. From what you’re saying about how travel, projects, etc don’t seem as fulfilling anymore, it really seems to me like you have some depressive tendencies. I’m not a doctor, but just as a friend, I think you should really try to think of dealing with that existential sadness as a priority - not as an annoyance. Spending re…

Seconded! This post sounds a lot like me a while ago, and depression was definitely a factor.
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