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Ah, the victim blaming accusation. I was waiting for this. To be clear: Ms. Wolfe is the obvious victim in this situation. She did nothing to deserve it, and all responsibility for it falls on the frail, slimy shoulders of Mr. Marteen. There is no way she could have predicted that he would act like this. However, she could have known it was a risk. Furthermore, the fact that Mr. Marteen is 100% responsible for this s…
When you say stuff like "Ms. Wolfe should have recognized that risk when she went into business with her boyfriend," it's extremely difficult to come to any conclusion other than that you're blaming the victim. I think it's possible to make the point you made without sounding like you're blaming the victim, but you didn't do it.
Choosing to venture outside without an umbrella does not put you at fault for the rain. Choosing to go into business with your boyfriend does not put you at fault for his emotional issues.
Is it victim blaming to advise carrying an umbrella when it might rain? No.
My point is that when she joined the company, there was a risk she would break up with her boyfriend and he would go batshit-crazy. That risk always exists. It's sad and unfortunate, but it's a risk.
She chose to take that risk, and is unfortunately suffering from its negative consequences. But taking the risk does not put her at fault for the outcome, and pointing out the risk does not put me at fault for victim blaming.
(By pointing out the risks of going into business with your significant other, I took the risk of being labeled a victim blamer. Does that make me responsible for being called a victim blamer? Mind blown)