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Why There Are No Girls In San Francisco

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Re: Why There Are No Girls In San Francisco

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As someone who is considering moving to San Francisco, this is terrifying. Please, can a local soothe me with a rebuttal?

If you're looking for a wife, it's no more difficult here than anywhere else. If you're looking for a dating scene, you will be disappointed if you're coming from the Midwest or South.

Re: Why There Are No Girls In San Francisco

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this is complete nonsense, SF is full of very beautiful women. After living here for many years, I'd respectfully disagree with this. The neighborhoods with the highest density (scientifically studied over a lifetime) are The Lower Haight and The Mission.

Please specify which other cities you are comparing this to.

Re: Why There Are No Girls In San Francisco

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As someone who is considering moving to San Francisco, this is terrifying. Please, can a local soothe me with a rebuttal?

1. If you're into Asian women(and may be they are into you), you'll feel like you've won the lottery by moving to SF. 2. If you're not, well, you'll learn to:)

I'd like to offer a corollary, if you are an Asian man... lots of Asian girls are only looking for white men... thusly lowering your pool.

But San Francisco's women are beautiful and amazing. There are few other cities that compare. You may just need a bit more luck than elsewhere.

Re: Why There Are No Girls In San Francisco

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SF is outrightly depressing when it comes to girls! The numbers are just not comparable to a city like NYC or LA.

Numbers? I myself like to focus on quality.

I can't talk about NY, but having lived in LA for 5+ years I can safely say that it's a horrible place for either sex to seek out any form of lasting relationship.

Of course if you love spending your evenings in bars buying drinks for willing girls under 25 (or at least who claim to be) then LA's a great place to live.

Re: Why There Are No Girls In San Francisco

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As a gay man in Boston, I'd be fascinated if someone revisited those numbers in a queer context: how do things change for bisexuals? Homosexuals? What's the effect of mixed genders in a bar? The common trend seems to just be packing more 21-35 year old men into a room, and I don't know how far that is from optimal.

Re: Why There Are No Girls In San Francisco

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Is there any explanation from game theory as to why a slight imbalance causes such an exaggerated effect?

It makes sense that since there are more men, women get pickier, so paradoxically there appears to be less good men available to women.

What does game theory predict in such a situation?

Re: Why There Are No Girls In San Francisco

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post #5

As someone who is considering moving to San Francisco, this is terrifying. Please, can a local soothe me with a rebuttal?

1. If you're into Asian women(and may be they are into you), you'll feel like you've won the lottery by moving to SF. 2. If you're not, well, you'll learn to:)

You know, what somewhat amused me is that lot of the people who complain about lack of women in Bay Area, generally completely ignore non-American women (Russian, Persian, Asian). I've heard lot of there are no women in {this company, this CS department}" when there clearly are.

Otoh, it's also interesting why the gender gap is non-existant or is the other direction in former USSR and China/Taiwan/Korea (you could argue it's Communist legacy for USSR and China, but what about South Korea and Taiwan?).

(Disclaimer: I'm an immigrant from the USSR and the person who has been introduced into was my mother. I remember visiting her work place and many of her coworkers were women too-- and this wasn't considered unusual in any form).

Re: Why There Are No Girls In San Francisco

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this is complete nonsense, SF is full of very beautiful women. After living here for many years, I'd respectfully disagree with this. The neighborhoods with the highest density (scientifically studied over a lifetime) are The Lower Haight and The Mission.

I notice a lot of good looking women in shopping centers and malls, however, that isn't necessarily representative of the entire population.

Re: Why There Are No Girls In San Francisco

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post #15
post #7

SF is outrightly depressing when it comes to girls! The numbers are just not comparable to a city like NYC or LA.

Numbers? I myself like to focus on quality. I can't talk about NY, but having lived in LA for 5+ years I can safely say that it's a horrible place for either sex to seek out any form of lasting relationship. Of course if you love spending your evenings in bars buying drinks for willing girls under 25 (or at least who claim to be) then LA's a great place to live.

I am surprised you say that about LA. Though I haven't lived there, I have multiple friends that wouldn't trade LA for a thing! They are also not the relationship-types but do have stunning women around them whenever I meet them.

As for buying drinks, you know, that depends on the individual's mojo;) I've personally never tasted alcohol so the question of buying someone else a drink is far off. But I get your point.

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