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Work out daily? OK, but how socially fit are you? (2023)

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Post by bluefirebrand »

johsole wrote: post #10

I would describe myself as an introvert, but one thing I absolutely nailed was my marriage. I married someone who fits with me so well. We've been married for almost 14 years, we have 3 kids, and lots of responsibilities, but we still have lots of fun hanging out with each other and we make time to do that. Some of our most fun dates are still just going on walks and having a meal together. I think if you've got a ma…

I've come around to the idea of Church as a community building utility, third space sort of thing, but the religious aspect does not appeal to me at all so that's not an option to me. I'm not going to go surround myself with people that I disagree with on such a fundamental philosophical level and call that my community

As community organizations I think Churches seem at least somewhat decent. If only we could keep the community stuff without the religious stuff.

I dunno. I think we need (free / community funded) third spaces to make a big comeback. Where do people even go to meet anyone now?

I have a counselor suggesting I go try out tech conferences and meetups, but those have always felt like career building activities to me, not social activities. It's not the same at all.

Re: Work out daily? OK, but how socially fit are you? (2023)

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Post by mathgeek »

johsole wrote: post #10

I would describe myself as an introvert, but one thing I absolutely nailed was my marriage. I married someone who fits with me so well. We've been married for almost 14 years, we have 3 kids, and lots of responsibilities, but we still have lots of fun hanging out with each other and we make time to do that. Some of our most fun dates are still just going on walks and having a meal together. I think if you've got a ma…

> If you don't know where to start, a Church is a great place to start.

Please only do this if you believe (or are willing to explore or at least quickly reject and leave) what the church is teaching.

Re: Work out daily? OK, but how socially fit are you? (2023)

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Post by go_elmo »

mathgeek wrote: post #13
johsole wrote: post #10

I would describe myself as an introvert, but one thing I absolutely nailed was my marriage. I married someone who fits with me so well. We've been married for almost 14 years, we have 3 kids, and lots of responsibilities, but we still have lots of fun hanging out with each other and we make time to do that. Some of our most fun dates are still just going on walks and having a meal together. I think if you've got a ma…

> If you don't know where to start, a Church is a great place to start. Please only do this if you believe (or are willing to explore or at least quickly reject and leave) what the church is teaching.

Buddhism is agnostic and non dogmatic in its foundation, pretty clean overall

Re: Work out daily? OK, but how socially fit are you? (2023)

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Post by [deleted] »

mathgeek wrote: post #13
johsole wrote: post #10

I would describe myself as an introvert, but one thing I absolutely nailed was my marriage. I married someone who fits with me so well. We've been married for almost 14 years, we have 3 kids, and lots of responsibilities, but we still have lots of fun hanging out with each other and we make time to do that. Some of our most fun dates are still just going on walks and having a meal together. I think if you've got a ma…

> If you don't know where to start, a Church is a great place to start. Please only do this if you believe (or are willing to explore or at least quickly reject and leave) what the church is teaching.

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Re: Work out daily? OK, but how socially fit are you? (2023)

#16

Post by pull_my_finger »

johsole wrote: post #10

I would describe myself as an introvert, but one thing I absolutely nailed was my marriage. I married someone who fits with me so well. We've been married for almost 14 years, we have 3 kids, and lots of responsibilities, but we still have lots of fun hanging out with each other and we make time to do that. Some of our most fun dates are still just going on walks and having a meal together. I think if you've got a ma…

While I personally agree with you, there are plenty of "churches" with a focus that seems to be almost or more focused on networking than prayer and worship. Not recommending it, especially not over a real church (if there's an ideology that vibes with you), but they are a thing.

I feel like I can't put enough disclaimers on this though: actively searching for a community/identity/place to fit-in is a pretty vulnerable place to be and there are organizations (e.g. cults) that actively take advantage of that.

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Re: Work out daily? OK, but how socially fit are you? (2023)

#18

Post by tweetle_beetle »

johsole wrote: post #10

I would describe myself as an introvert, but one thing I absolutely nailed was my marriage. I married someone who fits with me so well. We've been married for almost 14 years, we have 3 kids, and lots of responsibilities, but we still have lots of fun hanging out with each other and we make time to do that. Some of our most fun dates are still just going on walks and having a meal together. I think if you've got a ma…

A church in that sense is basically just a (social) club. There are many, many other options for social clubs that don't come with the religious baggage.

Re: Work out daily? OK, but how socially fit are you? (2023)

#19

Post by onlypassingthru »

bluefirebrand wrote: post #11
johsole wrote: post #10

I would describe myself as an introvert, but one thing I absolutely nailed was my marriage. I married someone who fits with me so well. We've been married for almost 14 years, we have 3 kids, and lots of responsibilities, but we still have lots of fun hanging out with each other and we make time to do that. Some of our most fun dates are still just going on walks and having a meal together. I think if you've got a ma…

I've come around to the idea of Church as a community building utility, third space sort of thing, but the religious aspect does not appeal to me at all so that's not an option to me. I'm not going to go surround myself with people that I disagree with on such a fundamental philosophical level and call that my community As community organizations I think Churches seem at least somewhat decent. If only we could keep t…

>I think we need (free / community funded) third spaces to make a big comeback. Where do people even go to meet anyone now?

Ireland and Australia seem to have something going with the Men's Sheds.

https://menssheds.ie/

https://mensshed.org/

Re: Work out daily? OK, but how socially fit are you? (2023)

#20

Post by adammarples »

dominotw wrote: post #2

i feel more stressed out by all these things you are supposed to do to not die in misery. Nothing is enough. There is always some other thing to do.

Have relationships, walk, sleep, eat food. It's all actually quite relaxing and enjoyable stuff, nothing to stress over.
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