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Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm

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Re: Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm

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Post by sjtgraham »

neom wrote: post #6

I hate to admit this but balding has been a really really stressful thing for me getting into 40. I didn't think it would be, I hardly looked in the mirror at the best of times during my 20s and 30s, but I've been rapidly balding over the past 2/3 years and I can see by this time next year...I'll be bald. I'm at the point I've been considering going to turkey, but I think the most surprising thing to me is just now m…

Make sure you're lean and muscular before you lose it all.

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Post by delichon »

I seem to have become scarier in my old age. People seem to pay more attention and react more strongly to me than they used to, but all I did was get older and uglier. Whatever physicality I had has waned, but moral presence among strangers has waxed. Maybe it's a remaining respect for elders rather than something to do with me. But it has made me more careful with hiding my grumpiness.

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Post by bcjdjsndon »

Spivak wrote: post #9
thisismytest wrote: post #3

I don’t understand the HN algo anymore

You can't imagine why a forum of predominantly adult men in their late twenties to mid forties would be interested in an article about aging gracefully and maintaining warm healthy relationships with their peers?

Because it's so elementary?

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Post by mattbettinson »

neom wrote: post #6

I hate to admit this but balding has been a really really stressful thing for me getting into 40. I didn't think it would be, I hardly looked in the mirror at the best of times during my 20s and 30s, but I've been rapidly balding over the past 2/3 years and I can see by this time next year...I'll be bald. I'm at the point I've been considering going to turkey, but I think the most surprising thing to me is just now m…

Finasteride and minoxidil are a lifesaver

Re: Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm

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Post by tietjens »

toyg wrote: post #10

Regardless of agreeing with the advice, a 41yo giving advice on surviving the 40s seems a bit arrogant. Being 41 is different from 46 which is different from 49, and he just doesn't know yet. The right title should be "how I feel after a year in my 40s".

It's his strategy going forward. He isn't saying he completed his 40s at the age of 41. You would prefer he share his strategy for 40s at 50? Seems pedantic.

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Post by natebc »

bcjdjsndon wrote: post #16
Spivak wrote: post #9

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You can't imagine why a forum of predominantly adult men in their late twenties to mid forties would be interested in an article about aging gracefully and maintaining warm healthy relationships with their peers?

Because it's so elementary?

it's really not. It's easy for some, sure and you're maybe one of them (or perhaps mistaken!) but many, many MANY people, especially men, even intelligent men struggle with social situations and maintaining healthy social relationships.
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