I kinda had this maybe assembled in my head in an incomplete bits and pieces way but this really brought together the concept I love it. Whoever wrote this post is really rocking with the clear human thinking.
Thank you
Root for your friends
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#12And here I was cynically thinking I was going to learn how to "get root" on my friends. Still applies I guess.
I offered to give root and/or ssh to a couple of friends, and they all turned it down. I don't really have any friends anyway.
Perhaps we can parlay this title into a video game. Or simply an alternate title for Core War.
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#13And here I was cynically thinking I was going to learn how to "get root" on my friends. Still applies I guess.
inception is a form of code execution in their brain.
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#14And here I was cynically thinking I was going to learn how to "get root" on my friends. Still applies I guess.
sudo make me a sandwich
(xkcd.com/149)
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#15Just had a friend leave their company. They had formed a really strong network of people within that company who were in constant contact. This helped them succeed in a lot of ways.
Sounds good? It was, except...most of that bonding was based on lowkey negativity by a set of people who felt powerless, complaining about how others were terrible. Some in this network went down a rabbithole of resentment and are still there. The reality is that yes, there was lots of stuff to be grumpy about.
Rooting for your friends is great. But people sometimes bond over wishing harm for their foes. Shared trauma does that. I personally try to avoid that mindset.
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#16I believe in this. Just don't get onto to the corporate hype train.
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#17For a long time, I’ve been this person for other people, but don’t feel like I have anybody to do this for me. That’s okay — I don’t feel bitter about that or anything. And I don’t wanna overstate what a good friend I am or whatever, I just do this a decent amount. But some part of me does wish I had someone celebrating my wins. This: “No one comes to mind? Maybe you haven’t really trusted anyone with your wins yet.”…
> For a long time, I’ve been this person for other people, but don’t feel like I have anybody to do this for me.
For the longest time I was this and unfortunately I got bitter over time. But then a couple of years ago I got back into the mindset again. A few bad years later I realized that the more happy you are for your friends, the more happy you are. Do it for yourself and nobody else.
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#18Blogger says it’s better to be positive than negative. Could that be the case? Is it really so? Yes. And further. Thinking good thoughts is better than thinking bad thoughts about yourself or others. It’s also better to give meaningful feedback on projects. Than not meaningful feedback. “This is a message that a lot of people need to hear,” says blogger. Here’s some memes from 2012 to now.
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#19I’m not trying to be controversial but this behavior seems to be very hard for a lot of men. I’ve noticed it a lot in my life that guys are far more willing to “circle the wagons” over petty slights, and alienate people over it. Then their ego doesn’t let them back down, and they just get more bitter from the (obvious) outcome.
I’m guilty of it myself of course, but it seems like there is some kind of naturally adversarial behavior baked into me. It literally just makes things worse is the funny thing, and I already know this. But sometimes I cant stop it. Life would be easier and better if we were all collectively friendly hypemen but alas.
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#20And here I was cynically thinking I was going to learn how to "get root" on my friends. Still applies I guess.
I offered to give root and/or ssh to a couple of friends, and they all turned it down. I don't really have any friends anyway. Perhaps we can parlay this title into a video game. Or simply an alternate title for Core War.
Oddly I have found that nearly all of my best friends come from different walks of life than me, and do different things for work. Only one of my very good friends does the same things that I do. Others, like my stonemason friend, have very different lives, and we met by chance. I’ve also found lately that I enjoy socializing with people over a shared activity, like a class. I just got back (today) from taking a drafting (ie, architectural drawing) class. The people in it were very different from me: a mix of tradespeople and artists. Nevertheless, it was clear that all of us shared a love of learning a skill and doing it well, and so it really was a blast. I learned a lot from them.
You might try just doing something different. It was an interesting experience spending the day with people who wanted to talk to me because I was the odd one out—none of them personally knew any programmers or computer scientists and they all had a million questions!