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Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by coro_1 »

internetter wrote: post #3

I like the open source aspect, I've been looking for an ethical dating app for a long time, and based on the README it looks awesome! But then I clicked onto the site, and things did a 180, based on the edgy marketing copy on the landing page I don't think this is the site I'm looking for, as 'normie' as that might make me. > There’s plenty of dating apps out there: Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, Boo, Hinge. We think they’…

> Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, Boo, Hinge. We think they’re all great apps... For normies!

Their business models need more transparency. Donations from couples who have achieved milestones on all apps as a means of sustaining the business, could realistically make the world a better place.

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by PaulHoule »

internetter wrote: post #3

I like the open source aspect, I've been looking for an ethical dating app for a long time, and based on the README it looks awesome! But then I clicked onto the site, and things did a 180, based on the edgy marketing copy on the landing page I don't think this is the site I'm looking for, as 'normie' as that might make me. > There’s plenty of dating apps out there: Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, Boo, Hinge. We think they’…

The only people who think like think those are "great" apps are successfully promiscuous people around big cities with vast dating pools.

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by progmetaldev »

internetter wrote: post #3

I like the open source aspect, I've been looking for an ethical dating app for a long time, and based on the README it looks awesome! But then I clicked onto the site, and things did a 180, based on the edgy marketing copy on the landing page I don't think this is the site I'm looking for, as 'normie' as that might make me. > There’s plenty of dating apps out there: Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, Boo, Hinge. We think they’…

Unfortunately, I don't think we're going to ever be getting an ethical dating app. It may be ethical as far as not charging users to connect, or not trying to keep users constantly staying single so they are always using and checking the app. Without that "addiction" potential, I think even a completely open dating app would fail miserably. If people were able to connect and move on quickly, there would be little reason for the app-creators to continue developing.

I say this as someone that has spent the last few years wading through various dating apps, looking for a monogamous relationship. The best luck I've had with dating (after using Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, and Facebook Dating) has been finding local Facebook singles groups, and just chatting. I can be nervous and awkward, but I'm able to fake it in person, and online it's easy for me to have conversations with others about interests.

Also, instead of trying to be a "normie" (although you didn't say you were doing this, so this may not apply), lean into what makes you unique and try to find the same or something compatible in someone else. Going through apps is not fun, but I have met a ton of different people that I don't think I ever would have interacted with if I hadn't gone through dating apps or chatting with strangers.

To be clear, the language isn't "fun" for anyone that has dealt with any of the things they mention!

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by caseysoftware »

I worked for a dating website years ago and the business model is completely broken. More fun, a few years ago I was putting together a talk related to this blog post and searched for "best dating site" and hit the "top 100 dating sites" which implies there are at least 100. Yikes.

Anyway, here's some talk of the business model and mis-matched motivations:

https://caseysoftware.com/blog/working-for-a-dating-website

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by progmetaldev »

coro_1 wrote: post #11
internetter wrote: post #3

I like the open source aspect, I've been looking for an ethical dating app for a long time, and based on the README it looks awesome! But then I clicked onto the site, and things did a 180, based on the edgy marketing copy on the landing page I don't think this is the site I'm looking for, as 'normie' as that might make me. > There’s plenty of dating apps out there: Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, Boo, Hinge. We think they’…

> Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, Boo, Hinge. We think they’re all great apps... For normies! Their business models need more transparency. Donations from couples who have achieved milestones on all apps as a means of sustaining the business, could realistically make the world a better place.

It's just extremely difficult to get any money (including donations) after you've hit the end of the "marketing funnel." People meet, are happy, and won't look back. Maybe a "first time is free," type of arrangement?

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by julianeon »

OutOfHere wrote: post #6
robrtsql wrote: post #5

> What’s the gender ratio on Duolicious? > Right now the ratio of active men to women is 7.32:1. The ratio can change a lot, depending on which online communities have been talking about Duolicious lately; The ratio’s previously been as high as about 20:1. Admitting this was brave.

Technically, most here would care for the ratio of active-straight-cis-men to active-straight-cis-women, which I am afraid could be substantially more distorted. (No offense to any other groups, which hopefully will have better luck anyway.)

I think only active-straight-cis-men and active-straight-cis-women are looking for things like open source dating site alternatives to the mainstream sites. Other groups aren't in this market, so to speak. Either they have apps & sites they don't need alternatives to, or they rely on the local community.

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by mrayycombi »

internetter wrote: post #3

I like the open source aspect, I've been looking for an ethical dating app for a long time, and based on the README it looks awesome! But then I clicked onto the site, and things did a 180, based on the edgy marketing copy on the landing page I don't think this is the site I'm looking for, as 'normie' as that might make me. > There’s plenty of dating apps out there: Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, Boo, Hinge. We think they’…

Admit it. You just don't want people to know you're into Nigerian basket weaving.

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by kaikai »

PaulHoule wrote: post #8

I like "Duolicious checks first messages for originality, and asks people to avoid overused openers like 'hey' and 'sup'." I've been thinking a social network ought to be more opinionated. You need a god if you want to tell true or false, but a very simple AI model can detect infectious negative emotions. Social media sites ought to ask you "are you sure you want to post this?" when you lose your shit. If somebody is…

Tinder does have an “are you sure you want to send that?” popup if you send something with certain keywords. Unfortunately that does nothing to filter out negging or harassment.

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by duskwuff »

rsstack wrote: post #4

Oh no: https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/sites/duolicious-4chan-dating... The Know Your Meme article, linked from the post page, is the best anti-review for this app.

> The Know Your Meme article, linked from the post page, is the best anti-review for this app.

Not the 4chan screenshots used as testimonials on the app's own web site?

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by progmetaldev »

PaulHoule wrote: post #9
robrtsql wrote: post #5

> What’s the gender ratio on Duolicious? > Right now the ratio of active men to women is 7.32:1. The ratio can change a lot, depending on which online communities have been talking about Duolicious lately; The ratio’s previously been as high as about 20:1. Admitting this was brave.

Can they charge women $1 to join and charge men $20 or something?

I can tell you that as a cis-male, there are many people that sign up for apps like Tinder that represent themselves either incorrectly, don't fit into the filters that are available, or gender themselves in a way that don't mesh well with cis-for-cis relationships. I hope that doesn't come off as harsh or hateful, because it absolutely isn't. I feel like a lot of non-cis people are subjected to a lot of unnecessary hate and/or miscommunication because of the way most apps work. I might be a cis-male, but I don't want to see anyone hurt or hated on for their sexual preferences. I'm not overly PC, but nobody deserves hate or violence, especially from a dating app that can't tailor itself to match with the right type of person.

I know I rambled, but my point was that charging women or men different fees is going to create even more confusion or outright lying to save a dollar. Things are already in a pretty grey area on dating apps as they already are.

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