If you have an actual memory leak in a JVM app what you want is an exception called java.lang.OutOfMemoryError . This means the heap is full and has no space for new objects even after a GC run.
An OOMKilled means the JVM attempted to allocate memory from the OS but the OS doesn't have any memory available. The kernel then immediately kills the process. The problem is that the JVM at the time thinks that _it should be able to allocate memory_ - i.e. it's not trying to garbage collect old objects - it's just calling malloc for some unrelated reason. It never gets a chance to say "man I should clear up some space cause I'm running out". The JVM doesn't know the cgroup memory limit.
So how do you convince the JVM that it really shouldn't be using that much memory? It's...complicated. The big answer is -Xmx but there's a ton more flags that matter (-Xss, -XX:MaxMetaspaceSize, etc). Folks think that -XX:+UseContainerSupport fixes this whole thing, but it doesn't; there's no magic bullet. See https://ihor-mutel.medium.com/tracking-jvm-memory-issues-on-... for a good discussion.