I've observed my naturally social friends (some of whom can go up to a group solo and initiate conversations) and I have come to the conclusion that it is a combination of (1) pattern recognition and (2) confidence. (1) - They have done it so many times they don't consciously grok about what they are doing, letting them be more truly aware/in the moment. (2) - In Daniel Goelman's "Emotional Intelligence" he cites stu…
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