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So how does one address the root anxiety?
By adressing not the anxiety itself but the root of anxiety. For minor problems it should suffice. I strongly suggest to reach for professionnal help though if anxiety is delibitating in any way. Be very cautious with internet advice and the self-help dev. movement.
ITT: news.ycombinator.com invents the concept of pointer dereferencing in a natural manner.