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Stop making every conversation about yourself
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Ironic, using the word "I" three times in an article with that title.
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#14The irony.
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#15> I was an obnoxious extrovert who had no privacy, shared everything online, and never thought before I spoke. It’s almost like they’re describing me. > Whereas true happiness comes from finding the quiet calm, the ‘home’ within you. Once you find this place, you’ll see that your friend list is narrowed down. I think I need to meditate more!
Careful because mediation can easily become performative (even to oneself). I've noticed this in some of my highly conscientious colleagues. Maybe it's "grindset" ideaology, but capturing the "point" of meditation takes much more than a scheduled 6 minute breathing session at precisely the butt-crack of dawn.
6 minutes seems awfully short, I havent practiced meditation for a long time but my sessions where 20, 30 or 60 minutes long, it takes time for the mind to settle down and to benefit fully from flowing consciousness. Anything less would feel like a rush job, which is kinda paradoxical for meditation.
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#16Most people love talking about themselves. So it's actually quite easy to be a good listener if you care to stop and listen.
I'm quite shy and don't enjoy talking, so I've learned to ask gentle but leading questions to encourage other people to talk, even if I already know the answer. It really works.
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#17Most people love talking about themselves. So it's actually quite easy to be a good listener if you care to stop and listen.
This is often quoted advice, but like many things it’s only true in moderation. People who take it too literally come across like therapists or interviewers. Some people are not comfortable talking about themselves, and most well adjusted people don’t want to talk endlessly about themselves. A good conversation should usually be an exchange.
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#18This describes me well. How can you find the inner home? How can you be more conscious during conversations? I often come from an interaction with someone thinking: "God, I talked way too much. Should've listened more."
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This is very common. Pretty annoying at first, but once I notice someone does that on the constant, I can zone out while they try to divert the story, and then return to continue the natural path of the convo. If it's every other sentence in a group setting, then I play a game of "how will that person turn THAT sentence into something about them?"
It's a forgivable trait! But notice when you do it so you can be more present and empathetic. Discussion is more fun when it can go in so many directions rather than just funnel to oneself! :)
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#20I feel like social media made this trait almost into an epidemic.