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I am plain stupid. Is there anyway to change that?

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Re: I am plain stupid. Is there anyway to change that?

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Post by iwant2endmyself »

david927 wrote: post #5

You've said nothing about intelligence. You've exclusively listed psychological impediments. Beating yourself up isn't helpful but your anger is good -- it means you're willing to change. Your username means you need to seek a therapist immediately and without delay. I'm not asking you, I'm commanding you. Do it right fucking now. In my opinion, consider trying several therapists until you find one that works well fo…

My tendency to be a victim of the Dunning Kruger Effect and constant repeating of the same mistakes points to an intelligence deficit. I have tried using both anger and discipline multiple times in the past to change and improve myself but it has never worked long enough, it always fails. So, I definitely need external help.

I don't think I need a therapist as I don't really plan/want to end myself. If I had a time machine and there was no grandfather paradox, I would make sure I won't exist but since that's impossible, I am looking to find whatever methods, experimental, surgical, whatever to eliminate what I also hope are just impediments and not an absence of intellect. I need to find someone who can tell me if my problems have solutions.

Re: I am plain stupid. Is there anyway to change that?

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Post by iwant2endmyself »

Bostonian wrote: post #8

You sound depressed, not stupid. What were your SAT or ACT scores? (You don't need to post them -- just compare them to the national averages.) They are the closest thing to a national IQ test in the U.S.

Not from the States, so haven't attempted those.

I don't think I am depressed, since this has been me for more than a decade since I was a child. I may sound depressed because I can finally understand how dumb I am and I don't like it at all and the predicament I am in now.

Re: I am plain stupid. Is there anyway to change that?

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Post by iwant2endmyself »

frendiversity wrote: post #6

Are you me? Great post, now I feel like I'm in a club!

I am definitely not! I checked out your submissions and I think you are both humbling/underestimating yourself and I may not have put across how precariously stupid I am.

Re: I am plain stupid. Is there anyway to change that?

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Post by iwant2endmyself »

coderintherye wrote: post #3

Stop focusing on what others (family, society, etc.) want you to be and instead accept yourself for who you are and focus on enjoying life. That's it. Simple, yet also exceedingly hard given how difficult it is to root out all judgement of both others and self.

It's not what others want me to do, it's what I wanted to do and I couldn't because of my own inaction and maybe my own low capability and intellect.

Re: I am plain stupid. Is there anyway to change that?

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Post by iwant2endmyself »

momirlan wrote: post #2

not existing is not going to remedy that. the only way is to keep trying. some people here recommend MDMA, or other chemical help (never tried myself). don't do goals, I'd have been long dead if I ever checked my achievements. life is good, just have to get this dark curtain off. good luck mate !

That's what I am looking for, some chemicals or experimental procedures or whatever it takes.

Keeping aside goals, my problems have significantly hindered my ability to function normally.

Re: I am plain stupid. Is there anyway to change that?

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Post by iwant2endmyself »

sn9 wrote: post #9

Does this sound familiar? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attention_deficit_hyperactivit... Go see a psychiatrist (they're the ones with MDs) and get evaluated for ADHD. Just tell them what you've told us. In the meantime, you might find some of the videos on this Youtube playlist helpful: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLYxtGyYUCbEGRw4WaKtjF...

I did consult an ADHD specialist 2-3 times and they were unsure of ADHD but said I possibly have a personality disorder and maybe, a intelligence issue too. I did not visit them after that due to procrastination.

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Post by elzbardico »

iwant2endmyself wrote: post #10
CBarkleyU wrote: post #7

Seek a therapist, ASAP. You're definitely not "stupid" stupid. I dont know you, but I know stupid people. Not one of them was this self-reflecting. And I don't mean that you're right about yourself --- only that you are willing to be reflecting on yourself. In any case, may I ask you what exactly you're expecting to get out of being smart? In my personal, academic & professional circle I'm usually regarded as "the sm…

If I am smart, I can fulfill my goals, excel academically and professionally, be able to deal with life and become rich. Even I have a bad memory but am not a fast learner or quick thinker which I think are essential and a good indicator of "intelligence" and success. The other huge problem is, even for things I am interested in learning, I am not able to be consistent or am unable to properly learn it. I am from a p…

The game is rigged. Becoming rich is more a function of either luck or inheritance than anything else.

Re: I am plain stupid. Is there anyway to change that?

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Post by momirlan »

iwant2endmyself wrote: post #15
momirlan wrote: post #2

not existing is not going to remedy that. the only way is to keep trying. some people here recommend MDMA, or other chemical help (never tried myself). don't do goals, I'd have been long dead if I ever checked my achievements. life is good, just have to get this dark curtain off. good luck mate !

That's what I am looking for, some chemicals or experimental procedures or whatever it takes. Keeping aside goals, my problems have significantly hindered my ability to function normally.

what you are saying applies to everybody. if I start talking about my problems and how i failed to become rich we'll spend a lot of quality time together. trust me, we're all just winging it, most of us. you need to get out of your brain.
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