is this really HN stuff?
"HN stuff" is what HN users upvote and find interesting.
motives for upvoting here have always been an opaque mystery to me.
I Sometimes Worry That I Wouldn’t Be Such a Feminist If I Were Hot (2020)
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#12Simone Weil: Une très belle femme qui regarde son image au miroir peut très bien croire qu’elle est cela. Une femme laide sait qu’elle n’est pas cela. ("A very beautiful woman who looks at her image in the mirror may very well believe that's what she is. An ugly woman knows it's not.")
Moreover, these differences tend to disappear with age, so being attached to one's looks is like making preparations for a big disappointment.
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#13This is a 20 year-old's blog post talking about how she hasn't quite figured out what she wants from dates. It's definitely not as introspective as the title makes it seem.
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#14This is a 20 year-old's blog post talking about how she hasn't quite figured out what she wants from dates. It's definitely not as introspective as the title makes it seem.
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#17In my humble opinion, I think that rejection builds resentment which can lead to feelings of retribution, but it can also lead to hope and perseverance to do better for others.
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#18Simone Weil: Une très belle femme qui regarde son image au miroir peut très bien croire qu’elle est cela. Une femme laide sait qu’elle n’est pas cela. ("A very beautiful woman who looks at her image in the mirror may very well believe that's what she is. An ugly woman knows it's not.")
Vanity always provokes a strange mixture of disgust and pity in people but vanity over appearance is the saddest kind of all; it's the cherry blossom of folly but brings out sympathy because of that.
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#19Come on now.
I get the just of the post, but after reading the content therein, this is a super defeatist take.
Who cares if you're not a skinny girly girl or a tall dude with blonde hair and blue eyes? Not everyone's into that.
There are so many things a person can do to improve their appearance before succumbing to typical gym and diet tropes (though those aren't bad things either!)
The author is 23 (though she was 20 when she wrote this). When I was 20, I looked like a _steaming pile_ compared to what I am now at 35. Dressed terribly, awkward in social situations, and surprisingly clingy. Ironically, I was skinnier then.
To close this post with something that makes this appear like HN-worthy content if you squint hard enough, I often feel the same about my career as a black/Latino person in tech.
While I would consider myself and my career trajectory to date successful, I often wondered things like "would I be in management by now if I were white?" or "I thought I did well on this take-home; would I have gotten a call back if I weren't black?"
Ridiculous thoughts, but I think them!
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motives for upvoting here have always been an opaque mystery to me.
Personally I upvote things that I clicked, read, and deemed worthy of reading. Could be almost anything.
I thought this too, re: "worthy of reading" and, as I feel it, respect of my time (not to make an assumption about how you received the article).
I really appreciated the effort that was obviously put into choosing her words.