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Ask HN: Rest Doesn't Help with Burnout

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Re: Ask HN: Rest Doesn't Help with Burnout

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> I work onsite, but my team is remote, which makes it hard to develop any friendships at work. I think this may be the core issue. You are in a new country with what it seems like not many opportunities to develop deeper connections. To me your conditions sounds more like adjustment disorder. I was in a similar situation like you before and focusing on developing deep emotional connections with people around me help…

After the experience I had at my job, I don't like it any more. Objectively speaking though, it's quite an interesting and pays really well (that's what made me stay). I don't have any goals in my career.

A job that pays well and occasionally exercises your brain sounds like a pretty good job to me.

Though I think Daniel Pink's book Drive said that people tend to be more satisfied at work when they have autonomy, a sense of purpose, and an opportunity for mastery, and that it can be worthwhile to try to find those things.

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Burnout due to different sources needs different fixes . I get the impression that you are struggling with isolation. Not speaking the language is a huge barrier to everyday interactions. Although you work onsite, your team is remote, which in effect is the same as you still working remote too. Maybe this suggestion comes too late, but you could have taken a holiday back home. Reconnecting with what is familiar can e…

I spent over a month with my family recently and it hasn't helped this time. I don't think withdrawal is an issue. I drastically cut down my drinking 9 months ago and since 4 months I'm 100% sober. Frankly, I expected more from sobriety.

Welcome to sobriety where you get to see those problems that you were ignoring before. Now you have to put in effort and face the reasons why you started drinking

You've built no support system and relied on your job as your social outlet/life. One bad review and it knocks you to the core. You've moved to a country where you don't speak the language and you haven't picked it up after 9+ months.

Why did you move? For money? A career? Lifestyle change? Please family? Does the original the reasons matter anymore?

If everyone is remote could you move to another country where the language is the same?

I would focus on building a lifestyle outside of work. Join an online game / join a team

Re: Ask HN: Rest Doesn't Help with Burnout

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You may want to check out the healthy gamer youtube channel. He’s a psychiatrist who specializes in burnout. Seems to know his stuff best as I can tell. I’ve found I like when he geeks out on some of the physiological effects related to psychology, but you may benefit from some of his more general episodes on the topic of burnout.

Re: Ask HN: Rest Doesn't Help with Burnout

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If you turned to alcohol in the first place, it pretty much means you don't have the mental machinery in your personality to deal with adversity, which is pretty much the root cause of your (and many other people's) problems.

General happiness and fulfilment in life doesn't come from comfort, it comes from being able to being able to deal with problems effectively instead of stressing out about them or avoiding them.

The only real way to get past it is to retrain your way of thinking, which requires professional help, behavioral therapy, and possibly even psychedelics since you have had 20+ years of conditioning yourself to be the way you are now.

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If you turned to alcohol in the first place, it pretty much means you don't have the mental machinery in your personality to deal with adversity, which is pretty much the root cause of your (and many other people's) problems. General happiness and fulfilment in life doesn't come from comfort, it comes from being able to being able to deal with problems effectively instead of stressing out about them or avoiding them.…

> General happiness and fulfilment in life doesn't come from comfort, it comes from being able to being able to deal with problems effectively instead of stressing out about them or avoiding them.

Fucking PREACH dude

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