This is the "just eat less" dieting advice applied to software. I understand the desire to grow your own food and bake your own bread, as a response to the onerous, distressing complexity of the systems we live inside, but you have to accept the cost of that being more work and less connection.
Not to mention platforms like the one we develop makes deploying free software based self-hosted solutions push button, so there really isn't any excuse for sticking to the faceless "crowdware" providers.