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Tell HN: Sometimes you don't realise how bad something is until you leave

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Re: Tell HN: Sometimes you don't realise how bad something is until you leave

#11
That is textbook constructive discharge, a type of wrongful termination.

It consists in creating a hostile environment so that you are forced to quit.

It is illegal. You have to document everything, create a solid case, then sue the company.

Re: Tell HN: Sometimes you don't realise how bad something is until you leave

#13

Thanks for sharing. > Just doing nothing sounds awesome. It's not. It's crap. Yeah, this is something people don't realize until they're it in. It's not fun. Humans long to be needed. > but I didn't have the courage to jump This is one of those things I personally have trouble wrapping my head around, but I know it happens. Kudos for getting it done.

My days at work where I'm actively engaged in a task and feel like I got something done fly by, whereas the days where I have nothing to do and I'm refreshing HN all day are not only boring but draining. Ironic that doing nothing makes you feel like you have no energy at the end of the day.

Re: Tell HN: Sometimes you don't realise how bad something is until you leave

#14
This resonates. In April I'll be starting a new job and the amount of clarity that gives with my current job is eye-opening.

I'll be earning less, yet I'll gladly leave a situation where not a lot of persons have a clue what our industry means let alone our specific domain.

Re: Tell HN: Sometimes you don't realise how bad something is until you leave

#15

I'm there now. The endless cycle of staring at the bedroom ceiling trying to muster the will to get out of bed, the anger at the existencial inertia, the tiny voice inside my head that says "jump" while staring at the abyss. Glad to see you made it out, guess there's still hope out there.

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Re: Tell HN: Sometimes you don't realise how bad something is until you leave

#17
Regarding work, there's a concept called "mobbing", which basically is making someone miserable so they quit. So yes, it may happen on purpose, which is deliberately bad. Some countries have laws against it, but even then, it is not easy to prove. I just wanted to mention it, and bring it to the discussion.

Re: Tell HN: Sometimes you don't realise how bad something is until you leave

#19
Thanks for telling us. One thing I’d like to add is that it’s pretty much the same with relationships. If you ever feel like you aren’t really happy with your partner, but being without them sounds kinda even worse, and maybe it’s your fault and maybe they’re your only real chance… GET OUT. RUN. Don’t look back.
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