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Regardless - I wouldn't really worry too much about the opinions of people on the internet. In particular on very large communities like Reddit, the inmates are running the asylum there.
I think you should follow the same norms on social media as you follow in real life: IE, if you walked into most public places and said (what I won't repeat,) most people will think you're a weirdo and avoid you.
IMO: The biggest difference between now and the 1990s was that oddball discussions, (like that kooky thing I won't repeat,) was that the oddball discussions generally only happened with people who were looking for them. Furthermore, if you were a nutbag, you might get banned from a small message board or dial-up BBS, but you could just move on to another small message board. Places like "the well," Compuserve, and AOL came and went out fashion really fast, so your opportunities to re-establish yourself were frequent.
Now with much larger message boards, it's harder to re-establish yourself every 6 months to a year. (For example, if I repeat what you said in the original post, it'll show up on my Hacker News list of posts. I won't repeat it; but now everyone in Hacker News who wants to learn about your submissions will see your very weird comment above.)
So, do what you do in real life: Read the room, and keep your mouth shut about the topics I won't repeat. Learn to blend in, and learn to find like minds.
I also did that alot in real life with non strangers
Once I stopped doing that I became much happier. Stick to things that are facts/proven instead of controversial/edgy opinions and you will be much happier
What you're really scared of is enduring the consequences of sharing your controversial opinions. You know your opinions are controversial, you know you're going to endure negative consequences for sharing them, so it makes sense to not share them. After all, what's the point? In all honesty, it's most likely you're an asshole who likes people getting all riled up and laughing at them for getting them riled up. You can't seriously think you're going to change anyone's opinions on such topics in a casual setting.