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Apple Users only. Responses are not necessarily indicative of how the respondents will actually behave in real life.
> Responses are not necessarily indicative of how the respondents will actually behave in real life. That's the case with any response anyone gives under almost all life contexts...
What is missing here is a study of the desire to be alone.
I thought I had that desire most of my life and recently figured out that was far more about my major anxiety to be able to provide quality "service" (as the article calls it) in all relationships, from casual conversation to romantic. Obviously, there are still times I want to be alone, but I'm more aware if it's due to anxiety and try to deal with that feeling if it is. That's just what I figured out for myself, no…
All things considered, I was expecting there to be much higher gap between genders and ages. At only one point is there more than a 10% difference. In my experience men and women claim entirely different wants and needs.
What is missing here is a study of the desire to be alone.
I thought I had that desire most of my life and recently figured out that was far more about my major anxiety to be able to provide quality "service" (as the article calls it) in all relationships, from casual conversation to romantic. Obviously, there are still times I want to be alone, but I'm more aware if it's due to anxiety and try to deal with that feeling if it is. That's just what I figured out for myself, no…
All things considered, I was expecting there to be much higher gap between genders and ages. At only one point is there more than a 10% difference. In my experience men and women claim entirely different wants and needs.
The differences between men and women are usually not as dramatic as standup comedy and television make them out to be. The differences aren't dramatic, but they are statistically significant.
We all know the dangers of using oversimplified models in other contexts, but the same applies here and happens to be one of the largest generators of present conflict. It's a classic map-territory problem applied to people themselves and - whether the map makers know this or not - those who control the maps can sometimes also control the territory.
What is missing here is a study of the desire to be alone.
I thought I had that desire most of my life and recently figured out that was far more about my major anxiety to be able to provide quality "service" (as the article calls it) in all relationships, from casual conversation to romantic. Obviously, there are still times I want to be alone, but I'm more aware if it's due to anxiety and try to deal with that feeling if it is. That's just what I figured out for myself, no…
That distinguishes between "I truly want to be alone" and "I want to be alone because I am not the person I wish I were".
All things considered, I was expecting there to be much higher gap between genders and ages. At only one point is there more than a 10% difference. In my experience men and women claim entirely different wants and needs.
It's a meta-study based on already "summed-up" attributes, so at least two levels of information loss. And it's hardly qualitative. It can easily say, "both want X", but not touch at all "how" they express this want, or how they perceive X.
Yes, giving identical labels to very different phenomena is a big problem in this kind of survey-based approach.
On Maggie McNeill's blog, one post touched on the idea that women want sex to last longer. She pointed out that women do frequently say this, but what they mean is that they want foreplay to last longer.
Apple Users only. Responses are not necessarily indicative of how the respondents will actually behave in real life.
EDIT: a striking example of this, they say "women give more gifts" in terms of LL they express, as a finding. But only 32% have this as a top two expressed LL, so a good majority of women don't even have gifts as a top two expressed LL. So, who cares about the percent difference 8%, does it matter? What does it even mean? What if 1% of men did X vs 9% of women? Why would the interesting takeaway be "wow, women are more likely than men to do X!!" vs. "gee, a sheer minority of people do X at all."
Saying the words "women are more likely than men to do X" leaves the reader unfortunately with the impression "many women do X," whereas that might not be true.