Most of those people that talk about 'finding passion' and 'doing what you love' are just spouting platitudes. Very few people are actually living anything close to their ideal lives. Find a job that's comfortable physically, mentally, and financially, relationships that are honest and fulfilling, and explore new areas whenever you find yourself needing something to occupy your time. It's OK if you never fall in love or find the true meaning of your life.
What's your thought on finding passion?
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#12Depression makes you feel like this. Trying to find a way out of it by trying to find new and fun things, can be devastating to your current situation as depression will keep you from feeling good and new experiences, even if you may actually enjoy them when you're not depressed, just are not fun.
The 20s are usually not the fun part of life. You don't really know who you are and you don't really know what to do with your life and you may have trauma, that you first need to heal from.
This is normal and a lot of people suffer from it. Don't feel invalidated.
You are good, just as you are.
Now go see a therapist.
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#13Passionate people suffer when they don't do the work, so they end up going through the pain of doing it anyway. These people wake up at 5 and do the work, because they just can't do anything else.
I think the trick is finding something you're curious about.
Curiosity comes from being open to different outcomes. When you take something seriously (including finding passion), you're forcing a specific outcome. I'm passionate about cooking. If you give me a steak, I will look for the effect of specific cuts. Can I make a great steak from cheap cuts? Does it taste better with butter and garlic? What can I marinade steak in? Does baking soda make steak more tender? If drier steaks are better, would freeze drying a steak make it better?
Someone who is serious about cooking steaks will only look for the best possible outcome, and probably try to imitate the best recipe and such. There's techniques to arouse curiosity. Meditation has several, but there's also something like Pirsig's Brick.
The other step is commitment. It's tough for a 20 year old. Back then, I did lots of stuff: AI, VR, robotic exoskeletons, solar cars, voice processing, cryptography. Wasn't willing to commit to anything, and somehow got less done than people who committed to something. Until I took a job and was forced to commit to web and mobile development.
Commitment also requires a kind of death of an identity. By committing myself to mobile dev, I'm also committing to not becoming a game developer or an electrical engineer. I get rid of the distractions, and have more headroom to master a certain niche.
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#14> I think this is mostly bullshit, peddled by unique people like Steve Jobs or Elon Musk [1]. It does not apply to 99% of population. For regular people, job is a source of money, so that you can have a life. Of course you will have "a bad time" doing it - a job is literally trading effort and discomfort for money. The dream that, if you only find your passion, the work will be fun and not taxing or uncomfortable, is just that - a dream that you can escape the human condition.
> The most common sense advice is to find a job that you can tolerate (or even somewhat like on a good day) and that pays well. That's what our parents always say (at least the non-US parents) and it's not because they're stupid - I think it's hard-won wisdom that comes with age.
> [1] Unique in the way that they are hardcore workaholics and work is almost everything for them. Most regular people are very far from that.
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#16Please read the book of Cal Newport “So good they can’t ignore you” an excellent book about finding satisfaction in one’s career. He exactly addresses this question about following you’re passion.
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#17Ask your grandparents this question and they'll laugh in your face. Passion-for-the-masses is a 21st century invention. Just live your life, do what you want, when you want. Do not worry about having a so-called passion no more than you should worry about not having a unicorn as a pet.
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#18I like solving problems with computers and programming. Am I passionate about the apps I work on? Meh. I am passionate about solving problems though with the tools and experience I have. I find it fun.
You're 20 so my advice is find something you like and pays the bills and get some experience on different things. I think passion is more something you discover on your journey through life and not something you can figure out like a math problem.