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"If you can't love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else, can I get an Amen!?" - Rupaul
I don't agree in any way. In fact, it's normal to love others much more than you love yourself. This is easy to understand if you have parents or children.
For me, the topic is too multi-dimensional to boil down to a few paragraphs about having a kind inner voice and recognizing defense/survival mechanisms. The latter actually being more about hating others than myself in my experience. I will add this to the thought stream on the topic however. Being ok with rejection, well more than that, accepting that rejection is a mechanism that guides me out of situations that ar…
I heard a couple metaphors about this recently. If you don't love yourself, how can you expect to love others fully? Like an oxygen mask in an airplane or an emergency surgeon getting ready. You have to put yourself first so you don't harm others. Put the oxygen mask on first before helping others. Check your own pulse before jumping into a life saving surgery.
This isn't even getting into people with chronic, treatment resistant depression. Some people will never be able to love themselves. Are they not allowed to seek relationships then?
For me, the topic is too multi-dimensional to boil down to a few paragraphs about having a kind inner voice and recognizing defense/survival mechanisms. The latter actually being more about hating others than myself in my experience. I will add this to the thought stream on the topic however. Being ok with rejection, well more than that, accepting that rejection is a mechanism that guides me out of situations that ar…
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This reads like deep depression.
I heard a couple metaphors about this recently. If you don't love yourself, how can you expect to love others fully? Like an oxygen mask in an airplane or an emergency surgeon getting ready. You have to put yourself first so you don't harm others. Put the oxygen mask on first before helping others. Check your own pulse before jumping into a life saving surgery.
If the only kind of love that one know how to show is constant belittling and striking to the point of serious injury, and learning that this is both how you say I-Love-You and if you loved them back you would endure it silently, could you honestly say that you'd want to love yourself?