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Many single Japanese people in their 20s have never been on a date – survey

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Post by psyc »

t-3 wrote: post #8
brnt wrote: post #4

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Does a date imply going somewhere? Most of my dates were at mine or other party's home, and we'd describe them as "dates".

Yeah, in my view, going on a date means going out to in a one-on-one format. Going to each others' house is just normal friend stuff, with the only difference from hanging out with my same-sex friends being sexual activity.

Are you telling us that kids these days don't have boyfriends and girlfriends? Just fuck buddies? The biological phenomenon of falling in love evolved out of the species in one generation? I don't believe it.

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Post by fsociety »

t-3 wrote: post #2

Not so surprising, as someone who was recently in their 20s. Dating is old fashioned and very consumeristic/wealth oriented. I've also never been on a date, because my social strata only goes out to party, not to eat at expensive restaurants with dress codes and shit, or theaters with $20 popcorn. We have kitchens and netflix.

Well, that’s just like your opinion man. Some of the best dates I have been on have been dinner at home, picnic in a park or at the beach, hiking, etc. Just do not attract people looking to relationships to fill their financial needs.

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Post by sorokod »

nine_zeros wrote: post #6
t-3 wrote: post #2

Not so surprising, as someone who was recently in their 20s. Dating is old fashioned and very consumeristic/wealth oriented. I've also never been on a date, because my social strata only goes out to party, not to eat at expensive restaurants with dress codes and shit, or theaters with $20 popcorn. We have kitchens and netflix.

Interesting. What does going on a "date" even mean these days?

"go out with (someone in whom one is romantically or sexually interested)"

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Post by commiepatrol »

I wish they would define what a date is. Does it mean virgin or at least someone who has had sex without paying for it? It also looks like in their culture you can be romantically involved without being sexually involved - are they saying 40% of younger men have never had a relationship?

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Post by brnt »

t-3 wrote: post #8
brnt wrote: post #4

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Does a date imply going somewhere? Most of my dates were at mine or other party's home, and we'd describe them as "dates".

Yeah, in my view, going on a date means going out to in a one-on-one format. Going to each others' house is just normal friend stuff, with the only difference from hanging out with my same-sex friends being sexual activity.

I can only say that round these parts, dates are not defined such, and are not at all about consumption.

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Post by bashmelek »

Overtonwindow wrote: post #12

I don’t know that much about Japan, so forgive me, but I was under the impression that in Japan there was a lot of shame attached to sex, and sexuality. Could the view on sex, particularly casual sex, impact dating?

I’d actually take the opposite approach—-keep sex as something within a committed relationship/marriage, and keep dating as something with purposeful intent for finding such a partner. What may be missing, though, is a sense of connection with one’s neighbors.

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Post by al_borland »

t-3 wrote: post #2

Not so surprising, as someone who was recently in their 20s. Dating is old fashioned and very consumeristic/wealth oriented. I've also never been on a date, because my social strata only goes out to party, not to eat at expensive restaurants with dress codes and shit, or theaters with $20 popcorn. We have kitchens and netflix.

A date and be a walk in the park with a picnic lunch. It doesn’t have to cost money.
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