1. The first major point (which is found at the end of this post) in any "defense of Obj-C" should be that this is a very pragmatic language. It makes a lot of wise tradeoffs and rarely strives for "purity" or "religion". This helps to put a lot of the language choices in context, and actually is the strongest reason its a great language in my opinion.
2. "Ugly" - The point is certainly not that you "see through the brackets", that's a terrible argument! The point is to understand why we have brackets, because they allow for named arguments without colliding with existing C syntax. Additionally, they make it clear to the user that what is about to happen is not a traditional method call, it is a message send. This is because you can do both in Obj-C (not to mention Obj-C++).
3. "Verbose" - First off this is a framework decision. It's possible to take Obj-C without Cocoa, and write a framework that is just as non-verbose as Python (and vice versa). But fine, you could make the argument that the named parameters "encourage" verbosity if you want. The key here is not to hand wave this away as a matter of "taste", but to understand the logic behind this: its very easy to read. I can show lots of non-programmers Obj-C code, and it really reads like english. In fact if you just read aloud many Obj-C snippets, it often sounds very close to English. 80% of coding is reading code, and if you work on a big project, its reading other people's code. You never run into a piece of code that has 4 arguments and have no idea what the last "true" is for. Similarly, you never have appendChild(node1, node2) moments where you're not sure which is the node you're appending and which is the one being appended next to. Apple's SDK's are repeatedly praised and a big part of that is that the frameworks are very friendly. I personally find the opposite trend of terseness incredibly strange: why do we focus so much on shrinking variable names.
4. "Memory Management" - This I will admit was more or less fair. The MM story just isn't that great with Obj-C. I have to admit I thought it wasn't a big deal before spending a lot of time in a dynamic language, but it really is annoying coming back to it. And while I'm not 100% sure yet, ARC is not the be all end all. I have to say I think about memory almost just as much with ARC (perhaps simply because I'm not used to it). At least with explicit management I knew exactly what was going on, with ARC I kind of feel that its half magic and half really hard situations. I really hope I'll eat my words about this soon. Now, the counter argument is that this is why Obj-C is so fast. I honestly don't know if that's true. I know enough smart people on both sides of the argument to say that I simply don't know enough about it.