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How old is too old to fix a messed up life?

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Re: How old is too old to fix a messed up life?

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Post by oldsklgdfth »

It's never too late! Any day can be day one.

I am in my early thirties and have struggled with the feeling of life slipping through my fingers and not being able to make the changes I want in my life.

If I have learned anything in the past year it's this: Consistency pays off. Spend 10 minutes reading, do 10 pushups, get a run in (maybe 5min) every single day and you will look back and be amazed at your own improvement.

That being said, I rely heavily on my morning routine to set the tone for the day. - make my bed - go for a run - do a 3 min workout - shower and get dressed - coffee and breakfast - some reflection on how I'm feeling and the day ahead of me.

If you are isolated find groups for hobbies you enjoy or hobbies you're curious about. It's a good way to meet people with similar interests in setting that don't involved drinking.

If you want to start today: - get some movement going on. walk, run, cycle. - prepare some food for yourself. don't eat out period - cut out drinking

Mostly be deliberate about the things you include into your life. Challenge your habits and status quo. Once you automate the small things you need to care for yourself you can tackle the big things. It's a marathon, not a sprint. Put in some work everyday and it's pays off.

Re: How old is too old to fix a messed up life?

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Post by loxs »

1. Lose weight and get fit, everything else depends on this.

2. Start doing social things that require fitness. Hiking is a good one, join a club. If you don't have a partner, this will help you with finding one.

3. If that's your thing, start some small project/business. If not, volunteer at something of deep value to society or yourself. Spend a nice chunk of your time on this one.

4. Travel

Re: How old is too old to fix a messed up life?

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Post by babygoat »

ganeshadhikari wrote: post #10

Read this article. This will probably change your life for the better. https://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-y...

> "Nice guy? I don't give a shit. Good father? Fuck you! Go home and play with your kids. If you want to work here, close."

Ugh, no. This is terrible advice.

Re: How old is too old to fix a messed up life?

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Post by ragingrobot »

From another comment

> 1. Lose weight and get fit, everything else depends on this.

I'm going to disagree here. I can speak from experience, and you'll find plenty via a search that getting fit may even lead to more problems if done alone.

That's if OP has esteem issues. Weight loss was suggested and nothing was mentioned in OP about weight issues.

So, OP if either apply to you, read on, if not, safely ignore.

While many of us fat kids (or formerly fat kid/adult) tie our self esteem to our being unfit, the fact is once someone gets fit that poor self esteem does not get magically fixed like a lot of us think it will. I know I did. I was 300lbs, dropped to 160 and started thinking "why am I not happier, I did all this work and still no social life?"

I dare say for myself and others that the magical non fix made things worse.

IMHO working on that poor self esteem is what everything else depends on. Then other things will start getting easier.

That's not to say that you can't work on both at the same time, but go for self esteem first.

Re: How old is too old to fix a messed up life?

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Post by atmosx »

ragingrobot wrote: post #14

From another comment > 1. Lose weight and get fit, everything else depends on this. I'm going to disagree here. I can speak from experience, and you'll find plenty via a search that getting fit may even lead to more problems if done alone. That's if OP has esteem issues. Weight loss was suggested and nothing was mentioned in OP about weight issues. So, OP if either apply to you, read on, if not, safely ignore. While…

The "wellness industry" is predicated on the assumption that if something happens to your health, is your fault because you could have done ABC which is total crap.

Of course losing weight and being fit is better than being overweight and unfit, but I'd rather hang-out with an overweight, unfit friend who I can discuss topics of interest and have a good time, rather than being with someone who's "fit" :-)

Re: How old is too old to fix a messed up life?

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Post by ragingrobot »

atmosx wrote: post #15
ragingrobot wrote: post #14

From another comment > 1. Lose weight and get fit, everything else depends on this. I'm going to disagree here. I can speak from experience, and you'll find plenty via a search that getting fit may even lead to more problems if done alone. That's if OP has esteem issues. Weight loss was suggested and nothing was mentioned in OP about weight issues. So, OP if either apply to you, read on, if not, safely ignore. While…

The "wellness industry" is predicated on the assumption that if something happens to your health, is your fault because you could have done ABC which is total crap. Of course losing weight and being fit is better than being overweight and unfit, but I'd rather hang-out with an overweight, unfit friend who I can discuss topics of interest and have a good time, rather than being with someone who's "fit" :-)

That's because the "wellness industry" is solely focused on physical health. Physical health is the key to life.

Which is utter crap. By now it should be apparent that we have a real big mental health problem in this society, and needs to be addressed. Instead they tell us "be fit and you'll be happy."

Re: How old is too old to fix a messed up life?

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Post by marto1 »

Depends on expectations.

Coming from a traditional christian perspective everyone has the right to rebirth at any point in life. The sooner the better of course. Then it's all about following God. It is the persistence shown every day that matters there not the "target".

Then again even from a biological perspective you still have quite a long time to go so don't take it so hard and try to not stray from what is good in life. Just my 2c.

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