I'm of the age where friends are getting married off and children will be in the picture soon. At least I should be, in my circle I don't see much of that happening at all. There's very little societal pressure towards marriage, and children are practically seen as a luxury item. Either you planned and saved up for them or you got one on an impulse and are now stuck making the payments. I'd like to have kids personally, but it feels like doing so would condemn them and myself to poverty
Study: A quarter of adults don't want children and they're still happy
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I was happy with no children, now I have a child I'm happy in a different way. Sure there are days/weeks where nothing goes well, where you hear "I don't want you, I want mommy", but there are moments when you get the reverse, and even little things make you smile. For example I was walking our child to daycare last week and had the following conversation: "Daddy, what plant that is?" "It's a rose" "It has spikes" "T…
I have a 2 year old and have a hard time accepting motherhood still. I am so happy in a different way but also so unhappy in another way. However before I had kids, I was happy but also unhappy in a different way because I wanted to get marry and have kids and wish I had them earlier. The more choices and opportunities life gives you (especially now with “you can do everything!” mentality) sometimes the more depresse…
Part of me has wished I'd started earlier too, but at the same time I think I appreciated my partner for a good few years, and I would have missed that time alone with them.
I guess having children changes so much, especially for the first few years, that there's no easy way to predict how anything will turn out. I've changed in the past few years, for sure. Though part of that is just natural growth, and a consequence of changing country, etc, too.
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My impression is that the adults who have children and dislike them are outliers. Perhaps the children of such parents are disproportionately likely to grow up and write memoirs, producing the impression that you have.
Recognizing irony is not the strongest of your skills, isn't it?
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