Sometimes others start burning the bridges whether you want it or not.
I was told that once you are moved to a legacy project, you should read it as that your employer doesn't want you anymore.
Work Hard and Don't Burn Bridges
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#12Sometimes others start burning the bridges whether you want it or not.
True, and this has happened to me as well. I just started looking for a new job and quit once I had one lined up. Given the circumstances, it was as amicably as it could have been, but it definitely wasn't my best exit. I just tried my best to control my own reactions and not to do anything that would make things worse. Sometimes that's the best you can do.
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#13I want to do this but somehow it feels that leaving is never amicable unless you bend over backwards to please the employer (ex: delay last date).
It doesn't always have to be amicable and friendly - sometimes you just have to find something new, quit, and move on. I would say in these cases, just try to control your reactions as much as you can in order not to make things worse while actively planning your exit. If you need to report anything bad, keep records of everything and follow the proper channels to do so.
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#14'Never' burn bridges is too absolute a declaration to be possible in the real world. Some employers aren't worth the effort or brain power to preserve a relationship with. Some are, and some are excellent employers you may not want to part with but are doing so for other reasons. For myself, I spent about 2 years with a company and I was completely burned out by the end of my time there. 14 or 16 hour days at times,…
Good point on the "Never" phrase. I updated the wording of the article to soften it a bit. I too have been in a situation where the best I could do was just get out as quickly as possible and try not to make things worse for myself, so I understand for sure.
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#15Sometimes others start burning the bridges whether you want it or not.
This is true. I have often found that the people who are telling you "don't burn bridges" are the same people who have just poured a five gallon can of gasoline all over the bridge, and are now standing in the middle of the puddle holding a Zippo lighter...
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#16> Even if the work itself doesn’t ultimately matter, people around you will notice and remember
This is counter to my personal experience, as well as that of Maya Angelou: "At the end of the day people won't remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel." It's supposed to be an inspirational quote, but I find it simultaneously accurate, depressing as hell and subversively instructive: do the best you can of course, but far more important than your work is how "nicely" you do it.
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#17> Even if the work itself doesn’t ultimately matter, people around you will notice and remember This is counter to my personal experience, as well as that of Maya Angelou: "At the end of the day people won't remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel." It's supposed to be an inspirational quote, but I find it simultaneously accurate, depressing as hell and subversively instructive: do th…
I think this is encapsulated in the point I am making with that sentence. It may not be the work itself that people will remember, but it's how you do it.
If you are consistently someone who can be relied upon to get things done and consistently does them well, people will remember that.
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#18> Even if the work itself doesn’t ultimately matter, people around you will notice and remember This is counter to my personal experience, as well as that of Maya Angelou: "At the end of the day people won't remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel." It's supposed to be an inspirational quote, but I find it simultaneously accurate, depressing as hell and subversively instructive: do th…
I think this is encapsulated in the point I am making with that sentence. It may not be the work itself that people will remember, but it's how you do it. If you are consistently someone who can be relied upon to get things done and consistently does them well, people will remember that.
Well, I wish I could say that this matched my own observations, but it seems like somebody who's incompetent but nice will be better remembered than somebody who's effective but brusque.