However many split brains and grey hairs later I decided RabbitMQ was almost never worth it regardless of how many of AMQPs advanced features you could make use of.
For the longest time I just made do with Kafka but this had serious deficiencies when implementing queues because of the cumulative ack only nature of Kafka.
Recently I have started using Pulsar which provides selective ack and all the best parts of AMQP without the complexity and unneeded parts. i.e it has things like scheduled delivery and TTLs in addition to the all important shared subscription which makes queues "just work" on top of streams.
If you want something like RabbitMQ but with a simpler API and are comfortable with JVM services give Pulsar a go. It's not for everyone but if you are already using a lot of the big data stack it's probably a good fit.