A few years back, I had a co-worker that was hostile to me. I won't go into the details why there's that hostility, but what happened was this: - In the middle of a (chat) conversation that was going nowhere about a certain issue, he told me that I'm "difficult to talk to." - I replied, "I can say the same thing to you." This co-worker then complained to management, that I was being a bully and disrespectful. I provi…
And if somebody tells me I'm difficult to talk to (which has happened about particular subjects with particular people), my response is not to look for something to accuse them of so they don't win. I either ask why, or if I know I'm being reasonable, terminate the conversation.
Talking to somebody who is constantly trying to equalize their position with you is fine usually, but trying to criticize, teach, or suggest a different approach to them is impossible. They don't listen, immediately get angry, and try to find something they can criticize about you (even if they don't really mean it.) I think it's a sign of abuse.