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All the mental health questions/advice: Forget it. Seek a therapist. Depends on your country of course. In Germany, you have the right to see a therapist and your health insurance pays for it. Don't ask on HN to get bunch of self-help books and apps, always start with the deep work of seeking and working with a therapist for a year.
Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect, helped me identify some negative patterns around depending on others too much for happiness and working to put myself first. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma, overview of how PTSD forms and how to use break the patterns
All the mental health questions/advice: Forget it. Seek a therapist. Depends on your country of course. In Germany, you have the right to see a therapist and your health insurance pays for it. Don't ask on HN to get bunch of self-help books and apps, always start with the deep work of seeking and working with a therapist for a year.
Listening to The Blindboy Podcast from the start has been invaluable in learning how to practice CBT (cognitive behavior therapy; in short, note: Action/trigger, Belief, Consequence/reaction; reflect and adjust). I relate to his experiences and find his solutions useful in my efforts to make more time after a stimulus to notice what I’m feeling and decide what to do.
Transactional Analysis is another useful tool to help shape my behavior. Do I feel like I’m in trouble? I’ll likely revert to Child state and thus make it easier for others to go Parent, when ideally we’re all Adult. When creating I seek the healthy side of the Child coin to immerse myself in the joy of play and the wonder of nature.
These and my counselor are just bumpers in the bowling alley as I get more practiced at owning and guiding my actions.
Breakthrough for Men (Monterey, CA)
NVC
Gratitude journaling
Poetry
Physical exertion to exhaustion (running, hiking, backcountry splitboarding, etc)
Spiritual health doesn't mean being religious or anything, it means being comfortable with who you are and how the universe is. You shouldn't be angry and resentful at the world. You shouldn't be always striving to be the best. Push yourself too hard and you break, which is paradoxically, very unproductive.
You need to be accepting with whatever comes. You can be homeless. You could lose a limb, your career, loved ones. It will hurt. It will require a lot of humility. But you acknowledge that the pain and suffering is a part of life. C'est la vie.
If you want a fixed goal, I'd say everyone has to come to the acceptance that they and everything they love will be gone. You'll die, what next?