In my benchmark testing, SSL appears to be the bottleneck; e.g., Apache vs. Nginx does not really matter. I assume the benchmarks above 10,000 RPS are not using SSL and regular HTTP? How are people doing benchmarks at 10k-100k RPS?
In the end you want to measure perf with and without SSL so you can identify the real bottleneck. Otherwise you might just benchmark your SSL implementations handshake performance and not what you really want.
As an example, I found that Kubernetes nginx-ingress can’t cache SSL sessions on the upstream side (nginx to your app). So request bursts can really hurt your application unless your pool has enough open connections to handle the burst (keep alive and keep alive requests). Without benchmarking my app in different ways I wouldn’t have figured this out as easily and might have just assumed my app was slow.