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The Dream Job That Wasn’t

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I’ve had a fantastic career which I am thankful for. My dream job is to be a pilot which I accept I will never do and can imagine the aspects that make it “just a job”. More relatable, in my experience, is the dream company. Accepting that you are committed to software development as a career different companies then take the place of a dream job. Google with all their perks of working on site. 37Signals / Basecamp a…

I recently had a coworker whose dream job is to be a pilot, specifically for fire rescue services. This coworker is a military officer who is intentionally taking a large demotion to become a military pilot in furtherance of that dream. They also had to fulfill a huge amount of nonsense, more than administrative actions, to ensure they had access to that opportunity.

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I'm just grateful for having been raised in a household where I was completely free to choose my own future. I wanted to become a musician, and my parents were ok, even supportive, of that. I eventually then found out that it's not easy to make a living as a musician, and later decided to pursue tech.

On the other hand, have friends that grew up in very different homes, where they were pretty much forced to pick medicine, law, or engineering, not ifs or buts. Many ended up switching careers quickly after graduating, pursuing other professions.

In the end, most I know - myself included - ended up doing pretty good. People do adjustments underway, but I'm grateful for having had the chance to chase my teenage dreams, even if it didn't work out as planned.

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Cal Newport became famous for his books "Deep Work" and "Digital Minimalism", but my favorite / most underrated book by him is actually "So Good They Can't Ignore You": https://www.calnewport.com/books/so-good/

In SGTCIU, he really goes deep on the idea that pre-existing passion is unlikely to lead you to a happy career and presents an alternate, more-compelling framework for job satisfaction.

1. Acquire rare & valuable skills (career capital) 2. Use said career capital in exchange for job / life properties you care about (remote work, working less hours, working for 'better' companies, higher pay, more autonomy, managing more people, w/e those are for you).

There are happy & fulfilled people in every career and, of course, unhappy people in every career / walk of life. But pretty much everyone wants the same thing in their career: mission, autonomy, impact, and creativity.

These traits ^ are mostly independent of a specific job / field

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

Having recently got hooked on DCS, I've subtly fallen in love with the idea of being a fighter pilot. I'm the right age to apply, but my eyes aren't even close to good enough, so I'm so glad I've had that particular epiphany after starting a degree and having other interests and all that jazz.

If you’re in the US, I believe most military services now allow LASIK and PRK

I am surprised by that, but I guess most pilots are not exposed as much as I thinĸ to open cockpits or windows that can blow your cornea flap open...

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Cal Newport became famous for his books "Deep Work" and "Digital Minimalism", but my favorite / most underrated book by him is actually "So Good They Can't Ignore You": https://www.calnewport.com/books/so-good/ In SGTCIU, he really goes deep on the idea that pre-existing passion is unlikely to lead you to a happy career and presents an alternate, more-compelling framework for job satisfaction. 1. Acquire rare & valua…

> But pretty much everyone wants the same thing in their career: mission, autonomy, impact, and creativity

There’s another model I use that I’ve found to be pretty accurate for most people: SCARF.

Status, certainty, autonomy, relatedness, and fairness.

https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/SCARF.htm

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I believed the "If you love what you do, you never work a day in your life.". I loved to build website and make it my job. I regret that decision every day for the past 6 years. The software industry in my country is a big pile of legacy trash that is making money. It's painful to never find a place where you enjoy what you are doing.

Now I tell people to NOT make passion or hobbies a job, it's a trap.

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I'm just grateful for having been raised in a household where I was completely free to choose my own future. I wanted to become a musician, and my parents were ok, even supportive, of that. I eventually then found out that it's not easy to make a living as a musician, and later decided to pursue tech. On the other hand, have friends that grew up in very different homes, where they were pretty much forced to pick medi…

I was raised in a similar way, and I have mixed feelings because I essentially ended up taking the path of least resistance. There was no pressure to do anything in particular, so I cruised through school doing as little work as necessary. I took exams in maths, physics and chemistry (because I found those subjects easy) and got very good grades but ended up going to design/art school because I thought it would be "fun" to be a graphic designer.

Then I slowly discovered how awful the graphic design industry is, and made a transition into tech. I taught myself to code at a youngish age so I have no idea why I never considered it as a career.

With hindsight I wish I'd had some pressure from my parents and gone to a "proper" university, studied something like computer science and really applied myself. I visited Cambridge after graduating and was blown away, I didn't even know what an actual university looked like.

In some ways doing what I wanted meant taking the path of least resistance (it's easy to pick the fun route), but ultimately led to disappointment career wise.

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Cal Newport became famous for his books "Deep Work" and "Digital Minimalism", but my favorite / most underrated book by him is actually "So Good They Can't Ignore You": https://www.calnewport.com/books/so-good/ In SGTCIU, he really goes deep on the idea that pre-existing passion is unlikely to lead you to a happy career and presents an alternate, more-compelling framework for job satisfaction. 1. Acquire rare & valua…

I remember reading his "How to win at College" when finishing graduate school; his first book made me feel smug because I was already doing all his recommendations.

I feel extremely blessed, as I have held a series of "dream jobs": 1) video game studio owner at age 17; 2) graphics researcher working for Mandelbrot on his research in '83; 3) Beta Tester for the original Macintosh; 4) 3D graphics researcher back when how to do 3D graphics was unsolved research; 5) video game console OS developer (3D0 & first PSX), 6) video game lead engineer (15 years), 7) I was one of the first people to get Live Interactive Video working on the Internet (Rotor Communications, '99), 8) VFX digital artist & developer for 9 major release feature films; 9) I pioneered and global patented Deep Fakes back in '08 (trying to commercialize that bankrupted me, I was trying to launch Personalized Advertising); and today 10) I'm lead developer of one of the leading facial recognition systems used by 3-lettered organizations world wide.

I get these positions by being irritatingly enthusiastic, technologically deep when first meeting the interviewers, and I try to get right into what their immediate problems to be solved and try to engage in that solution during my interviews. If given make work for evaluation, I simply refuse and ask them what problems they are actually facing: let's solve one of those. This gets the actual problem solvers engaged and I can judge them and they can judge me in our compatibility when problem solving. I tend to cinch the deal trying to get tje job by including 360 degree financial, long term maintenance, and a schedule for planned enhancements achieving expense reduction when executing whatever solution. I tend to minimize having an MBA, because my development achievements speak for themselves; but when I close with financial managers assessment of the company and act like the prospect of working there will be good for them, they tend make an offer. I never act like I need the job. I act like they need me, and without me they would face me working for their competition. Basically, I act like a force, and they can have me on their team of they want. Yes, this is arrogant; it is intentionally so. In many ways, I find I need to treat management like an asshole peer, and be an asshole right to them, and suddenly I'm their favorite guy. People are strange.

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I'm just grateful for having been raised in a household where I was completely free to choose my own future. I wanted to become a musician, and my parents were ok, even supportive, of that. I eventually then found out that it's not easy to make a living as a musician, and later decided to pursue tech. On the other hand, have friends that grew up in very different homes, where they were pretty much forced to pick medi…

I was raised in a similar way, and I have mixed feelings because I essentially ended up taking the path of least resistance. There was no pressure to do anything in particular, so I cruised through school doing as little work as necessary. I took exams in maths, physics and chemistry (because I found those subjects easy) and got very good grades but ended up going to design/art school because I thought it would be "f…

Thank you for sharing your experience.

Could you please elaborate more on this. Is it the long hours in front of a computer?

>> Then I slowly discovered how awful the graphic design industry is

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