I certainly can't offer any concrete advice, people close to you and professionals you may have access to at college can. Take advantage of what they can do for you.
Ask HN: Depression, Loss of Motivation, Feeling Lost. Please Help
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#12See if there is a club that you can join at your college; sailing, woodworking, fencing, pottery, etc... These have also helped me to find a motivation and a sense of accomplishment, plus they tend to push you to learn and grow your skills.
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#13See a mental health professional. I think lots of people see this as some sign of weakness or personality flaw; that you're "crazy" if you see a psychologist or psychiatrist. That's a bunch of bull#*$(. They are there to help you put things in perspective, in ways that might be difficult to discuss with your family or friends. With that being said, not all mental health professionals are created equally. Put together…
Talking to a doctor might also be a good idea, but if that is too big of a step for you right now just make an appointment with a shrink.
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#14I dont know what use I could be of, but I can lend a ear anytime you need one. Or maybe help talk stuff over. If you feel you need that, email me cherian-dot-abraham-at-gmail-dot-com.
Instead of just advice, I thought giving you that was maybe a bit more helpful.
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#17For me, exercise helps but isn't a panacaea. Proper sleep helps but too much sleep can be a symptom of depression I understand. I've had a tendency to almost obsessively research things sometiems in that position, close myself off in that pursuit then look back later and realise it's been an excuse to shut off. The people around you, odds on, care more about you and your health and happiness than you think. More of them have suffered or will suffer something like you are now than you might expect.
What little wisdom I do have in this area says to try and stay in touch with some degree of 'normal' life in the outside world. Forcing yourself into too much risks burnout which is no more helpful, but managing at least some leiure (i.e. outside classes) outside world interaction will, I suspect, help you. Most people are fundamentally nice and helpful IME, frankly,
(One little thing, you say you have no connection with your peers any more and seem to feel you've moved on beyond the pursuits that seem to interest them. For most of my life the vast bulk of my friends have been older than me; they're just who I tend to find interesting. Later stages of undergraduate education aren't conducive to significant friendships with older people than yourself though. You may find you benefit from trying to reach out into new social avenues outside education eo engage with peers at a different point in their lives than where you currently are yourself.)
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#18Looking back, I realised I thought I was only good to be a student. Really, what I wanted was a real purpose and real problems to solve.
Your situation may well be completely different, of course.
Nil desperandum!
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#19Do you know why? Has the work seemed meaningless, boring, overwhelming, etc.?
"I am unable to concentrate"
All the time or only during specific activities?
"I can't seem to find motivation to do work"
Do you have any motivation for non-work activities?
"and though I did have that phase, I can't stand that anymore."
Why can't you stand it anymore?
"I don't seem to understand what is wrong with me"
I know what that feels like. It's frustrating.
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#20You definitely sound depressed. I like to think of happiness as something I'm either taking in or using up (like food). Starving people can't immediately eat large meals. I would think of your condition in the same way, except you're starving for energy/life/happiness. You can build it up though. Find a little bit at a time until you can use that to find more. Find something (anything) that holds your interest. So yo…
To the anonymous poster, most colleges have counseling centers that you have free access to. Make an appointment, please.