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Sperm-Donor Siblings: A Family Portrait

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Re: Sperm-Donor Siblings: A Family Portrait

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post #8

Sorry is this is off-topic, but given the context, why are so many of them posed in seemingly erotic ways? It isn't just the women either look at Nik Morgan, 21 near the bottom (no pun intended).

I think a lot of them aren’t really erotic, so much as there’s an overlap between “erotic poses” and “vulnerable poses.” A lot seemed to be posed in a manner that I would call, artificially, awkwardly, vulnerable. Which might be the point, for all I know.

It's definitely the point. Being the child of a sperm donor can be so uncomfortable. It seems like an extremely appropriate way to pose someone who is being confronted by such a deep part of themselves.

Re: Sperm-Donor Siblings: A Family Portrait

#12
post #9

Sorry is this is off-topic, but given the context, why are so many of them posed in seemingly erotic ways? It isn't just the women either look at Nik Morgan, 21 near the bottom (no pun intended).

It's simply the timeless art of seduction: https://i.imgur.com/J8vRD5Y.png

Please don't do this here.

Re: Sperm-Donor Siblings: A Family Portrait

#13
post #7

The essay's author talks a little bit about how he and some of his half-siblings feel a sense of loss, or that something feels missing, or that they wished they had a father. But the essay never really touches on whether they _resent_ the fact that their parent or parents made the choice to have them conceived through artificial insemination from an anonymous donor. Obviously, if that hadn't happened, they wouldn't b…

Well. You can hear my voice. I'm the child of a sperm donor. I didn't learn about it till I was 18... which was more than a bit strange. The emotions that come from the combination of society's familial expectations, your own complicated family, and just the general fact that it's nice to be alive is a really strange cocktail. But... I'm not sure resent is a word that I would ever use, even in my bizarre situation of…

Thank you for your story. Does that vexation affect your relationship with your mom?

Re: Sperm-Donor Siblings: A Family Portrait

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post #7

The essay's author talks a little bit about how he and some of his half-siblings feel a sense of loss, or that something feels missing, or that they wished they had a father. But the essay never really touches on whether they _resent_ the fact that their parent or parents made the choice to have them conceived through artificial insemination from an anonymous donor. Obviously, if that hadn't happened, they wouldn't b…

Obviously, if that hadn't happened, they wouldn't be around to resent it

The parent(s) could have used a non-anonymous donor. Perhaps that's just too awkward for many people.

Re: Sperm-Donor Siblings: A Family Portrait

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post #7

The essay's author talks a little bit about how he and some of his half-siblings feel a sense of loss, or that something feels missing, or that they wished they had a father. But the essay never really touches on whether they _resent_ the fact that their parent or parents made the choice to have them conceived through artificial insemination from an anonymous donor. Obviously, if that hadn't happened, they wouldn't b…

Well. You can hear my voice. I'm the child of a sperm donor. I didn't learn about it till I was 18... which was more than a bit strange. The emotions that come from the combination of society's familial expectations, your own complicated family, and just the general fact that it's nice to be alive is a really strange cocktail. But... I'm not sure resent is a word that I would ever use, even in my bizarre situation of…

it's very "what the fuck"-ish

I can only imagine how it feels. Thanks for sharing.

Re: Sperm-Donor Siblings: A Family Portrait

#16

I guess it's just the photographer's style, but every one of those portraits looks like the subject been posed in a way that's unnatural for them, and they're not enjoying it.

Meh, I think they all look like they’re trying hard to look like they’re not enjoying it, aka hipster, it’s not cool to be happy

Re: Sperm-Donor Siblings: A Family Portrait

#17

Sorry is this is off-topic, but given the context, why are so many of them posed in seemingly erotic ways? It isn't just the women either look at Nik Morgan, 21 near the bottom (no pun intended).

a cross between gucci advertisement, a mug shot, and old playboy articles.

it's indeed very strange to me, too.

I think they were playing with the ideas in the article being a bit alienating, so the photography tried to follow -- emphasis on tried.

If I had to label the photography: "sexy ennui' comes to mind.

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