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Jason Shen's Rejection Therapy Challenge – Week 2

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Re: Jason Shen's Rejection Therapy Challenge – Week 2

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Post by twymer »

jdvolz wrote: post #7
jasonshen wrote: post #5

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Yeah, I know that can sound weird. I've tried hard not to do things that are hurt people or are particularly bothersome. But part of what rejection therapy teaches you is that people don't really care that much about you. That guy has probably completely forgotten about that incident already (I mean San Francisco is full of weirdos). I've been trying to get more meaningful rejections (see the edit I made at the end j…

I have to wonder if the head of this thread is actually a rejection that counts. They're rejecting your use of rejection therapy.

I'm only really rejecting a few of his rejection attempts. Overall it's a cool idea, calling strangers and attempting to share food are where it went over board.

Re: Jason Shen's Rejection Therapy Challenge – Week 2

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Post by wallflower »

Week 3 suggestion:

Go to a popular bar. Find a table where there are no seats but more women than men (ideally all women). Find a chair that is empty (ideally on the opposite side of the room) and drag it all the way calmly (loudly, of course) to the table. Smile, sit down, start a conversation with the group

Re: Jason Shen's Rejection Therapy Challenge – Week 2

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Post by mkempner »

The idea of welcoming rejection, in order to not be afraid of it, has been inspiring me a lot lately in both personal and startup life. I saw the light when I was taking improv class and realizing that you can only really do improv if you embrace looking stupid. It ends up I look stupid loads of times inadvertently so I might as well go for it.

Re: Jason Shen's Rejection Therapy Challenge – Week 2

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Post by G_Wen »

mkempner wrote: post #13

The idea of welcoming rejection, in order to not be afraid of it, has been inspiring me a lot lately in both personal and startup life. I saw the light when I was taking improv class and realizing that you can only really do improv if you embrace looking stupid. It ends up I look stupid loads of times inadvertently so I might as well go for it.

Looking stupid should be a side effect of getting rejected and not a path towards it. It's interesting that you mention improv because rarely ever in improv do you reject an idea. From what I've seen successful improv is working with every outrageous thing that your partners can make up while to turn it into a genuinely enjoyable act. Like you said I believe the point of Rejection Therapy is not to embrace looking stupid, rather it is to overcome your fear of doing so.

Re: Jason Shen's Rejection Therapy Challenge – Week 2

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Post by jasonshen »

aaronblohowiak wrote: post #8

Wouldn't a nationally competitive gymnast think rejection as being old-hat by now? Gymnastics is reputedly one of the harshest sports.

Haha - funny you should bring that up. I am great about getting feedback, even harsh feedback, which is something that you get a lot from your coach, or from judges.

I also work in sales and have done phone fundraising for my school so I've gotten plenty of "nos" and hang ups. It's not as big a deal though. For me, this was really about overcoming personal rejection and just challenging myself to try something a little outside my comfort zone.

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Post by [deleted] »

mkempner wrote: post #13

The idea of welcoming rejection, in order to not be afraid of it, has been inspiring me a lot lately in both personal and startup life. I saw the light when I was taking improv class and realizing that you can only really do improv if you embrace looking stupid. It ends up I look stupid loads of times inadvertently so I might as well go for it.

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Re: Jason Shen's Rejection Therapy Challenge – Week 2

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Post by jasonshen »

wallflower wrote: post #12

Week 3 suggestion: Go to a popular bar. Find a table where there are no seats but more women than men (ideally all women). Find a chair that is empty (ideally on the opposite side of the room) and drag it all the way calmly (loudly, of course) to the table. Smile, sit down, start a conversation with the group

Oh man - that's a slightly scary but exciting idea. I may have to take you up on it!
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