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Ask HN: When to disclose shameful felony during interview process?
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#12When you have a record, there's almost always a middleman in the way of you getting a job. Most of the time, that's H.R.
HR is NOT your friend. That is another conversation entirely.
If you cannot find someone to give you a break for a job, then I'm betting your best bet will be to remove the middleman, and go the self-employed route.
It is NOT easy, but it can be more lucrative and rewarding.
Good luck.
Re: Ask HN: When to disclose shameful felony during interview process?
#13Depends on the specifics. What did you do?
Suffice it to say it isn't something that makes me a risk to the employer, but it's also more awkward to discuss than other felonies.
Of course how much you disclose is totally your business, and I can't speak for the person you're replying to. But for me this isn't enough to go on, because your questions seem to be about others' perceptions of this as a risk.
Re: Ask HN: When to disclose shameful felony during interview process?
#14Move to Europe or some other place. Likely nobody will care at all about your past. Change your name.
Re: Ask HN: When to disclose shameful felony during interview process?
#15Move to Europe or some other place. Likely nobody will care at all about your past. Change your name.
Getting a visa with a felony is basically impossible.
Re: Ask HN: When to disclose shameful felony during interview process?
#16Depends on the specifics. What did you do?
Suffice it to say it isn't something that makes me a risk to the employer, but it's also more awkward to discuss than other felonies.
It's not all about risk. The person interviewing you is going to be drawing inferences about your character --- so exactly what you did will really matter.
If you were 19 with a 15 year old girlfriend, that's something many people wouldn't immediately condemn. Similarly, if you got caught having consenting sex in a bathroom, or even if you exposed yourself to a cop at a gay beat --- these are things some people will understand.
Even if you had child porn but never offended, you might eventually find an employer who would consider you to be making the best of a bad situation.
I don't think there's much hope of convincing an employer to trust you if you actually raped someone.
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#18Earlier quoted context omitted.
It could still go both ways though, there's many registered sex offenders that shouldn't be. For example, indecent exposure charges absent any underlying sexual motivation. That said, OP did use the word shameful.
Indecent exposure, even though it was without underlying sexual motivation, is very shameful and embarrassing to talk about, especially in an interview. And already a few Fortune 500 companies who wanted to move forward with me have decided not to for this reason, so it's more than shame, it seems like an automatic disqualification. It's very likely my career is over now. I guess if nothing else, my life can at least…
In that case I would see it like rl3 too, and would probably respond best to a frank disclosure upfront. Maybe your career isn't as over as it feels right now, but will just take more time to find the right place?
Re: Ask HN: When to disclose shameful felony during interview process?
#19Earlier quoted context omitted.
Indecent exposure, even though it was without underlying sexual motivation, is very shameful and embarrassing to talk about, especially in an interview. And already a few Fortune 500 companies who wanted to move forward with me have decided not to for this reason, so it's more than shame, it seems like an automatic disqualification. It's very likely my career is over now. I guess if nothing else, my life can at least…
In that case I would see it like rl3 too, and would probably respond best to a frank disclosure upfront. Maybe your career isn't as over as it feels right now, but will just take more time to find the right place?
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